...Under my skin...

It's pretty safe to say we're all human.
None of us are perfect.. and with our imperfections come different levels of tolerance for other people's imperfections.
If we were perfect.. no one would be able to judge us.. or i guess they could TRY but.. chances are.. they wouldn't find anything wrong with us. If we were perfect we could then look to another and say.. i don't like this about you because.. obviously you're not perfect like i am.. so you should change it.
The Perfect person could take it upon themselves to set a standard list of pet peeves. A list of things that are ALLOWED to bug other people.
Lucky for us... this list is WAAAAAAY TOO LONG! because most people in the world... take it upon themselves to be this.. one perfect person.

I don't like it when girls act dumber than they are because they think it's attractive.. i enjoy being and feeling like an intelligent human being.. i think they should enjoy acting like they have a brain.

I don't like that guys encourage this bimbo-ness. cuz then girls think it's sexy.. and it's retarded.

I cringe when people pop their necks.. but think it's kinda sexy when guys pop their knuckles.

I hate it when people think they know me.. or attempt to explain me to other people like they're an expert.. cuz.. homie.. you don't know me. (although chances are you just might through this blog..)

I hate it when i'm with a girl that will talk crap on her best friend.... if you're talking about your BFF this way.. what the heck are you saying about me as soon as i walk away?! Be loyal to those who aren't present! have the back of someone who can't have their own! ESPECIALLY when it's your best friend! the closer you get to someone.. doesn't entitle you to talk as much heat on them as you want!

Most pet peeves shouldn't even COUNT as peeves... because they are only directed at hm.. ONE PERSON. you hate it when that ONE PERSON does this.. or that..

This happens a lot in dating.
You let yourself get suuuper bugged over stuuuupid things.. and sometimes not so stupid things...

A couple months ago my friend Abby was dating these 2 guys.. playa playa i know..
One of them.. Ron.. was an amazingly fantastic guy! He. was. a. catch.
he was good to her.. attractive... they went on fun dates.. he was funny..he was in love with her.. he had it all together.
After about a month of dating Won Won.. he called her HUN.
"Hun.. what are you doin?" "lets go hun.."
and oooooooooh was she buuuugggggeeeeddd..
in 5.2 seconds it went from.. 'i could totally see this going somewhere..' to 'DEATH AND PAIN TO WON WON!!'
it just grossed her out in every way shape and form.
... understandable right..?
no. she's on crack.
cuz the other guy she was hanging out with and dating.. named Winston.. called her hun all the time.
He was more of the bad boy... attractive.. rode motorcycles.. they went on fun dates.. he was in love with her.. they saw each other literally every single day... he had it all together too..

Winston called her hun.. babe.. baby.. all of the above.. and it never bugged her! she thought it was cute when he did it! She would even call him hun back!

I have another friend in the same kind of situation..
My friend Samantha has this HUGE pet peeve about guys calling her babe..
She had a boyfriend in high school a thousand years ago that called her babe.. she's still traumatized by it.. soooo... every time a guy calls her babe.. he gets kicked to the curb cuz she JUST can't get over it!!!

The trouble that comes from being so dang bugged about everything.. is that in a relationship... there are 2 different people involved... unless of course you fit the tool mold.. cuz we know they all love themselves.
With these 2 different people.. they form ONE relationship.
When it comes to dating and marrying these people... we have to decide what we can live with and what we can absolutely NOT live with..
We have to decide what is a 'changing' peeve and what an 'acceptance' peeve is.

If the guy i'm dating calls me DUDE.. MAN.. BRO.. HOMIE... any of the above... imma slap him upside the head until he stops! soooo unattractive guys.. common now.
NO girl wants to be called 'BUD'. it's just gross. however... i'm sure if you get smacked around.. this can be an accepting peeve. cuz iT WILL CHANGE but i accept the fact that it's small and i can live with it for the 5 seconds that it happens.. trust me.. it'll change dang fast if homeboy doesn't want a concussion.

If i'm dating a guy thats rude to his mom however.... this is a changing peeve.. cuz FIRST OFF it's a HUGE red flag.. and SECOND... if it doesn't change then... see ya never bud.
this is something i wont budge on.. you are treating your mom how you are going to treat me as soon as we get past the 'pretend you're perfect until they commit' phase and get comfortable enough to be grumpy and treat each other like crap phase..
not ok. check yourself or get out of my life.

Pet peeve: i HATE it when a guy cares more about what i look like than i do... if i choose to not wear make up and wear sweats one day.. you'll get over it! i'm not gonna get decked to the nines every single friggin day. i like to chill.. fill your prescription of chill pills that CLEARLY you've been out of for a while.. and get in sweats WITH ME! now THAT is attractive. i wont be a slob all the time.. but when i do.. love me for it.. or get off your high horse and die. or.. go find prom dress barbie.. cuz reality barbie likes sweats.
This could be an accepting peeve because even if i dated a guy that hated me in sweats.. first off.. you have to know me well enough that i'd still wear them.. BUT.. i could compromise and get dressed up more.. i could accept it and go around it.. it wouldn't make or break anything.. accept maybe his arm.

Pet Peeve: Lying.
i know a lot of guys that lie.. JUST TO LIE! there is absolutely NO point in telling me that you don't talk to any other girls if you really do... i didn't ask! i wasn't prying! why the heck did you say it JUST to lie about it?? thats RETARDED.. and again.. a HUGE red flag.
and like lying about where you are... who the freak cares where you are.. why are you lying about it? it's not a big deal.. and you make yourself a total sketch ball every time you lie..
This is a changing peeve.. cuz if it didn't change.. there wouldn't BE a relationship.. there wouldn't BE a chick for him to lie to anymore.
Even when you see them lie to other people.. their parents included.. about dumb stuff you know not to be true... RED. FLAG. KNOCK IT OFF OR YOU WILL DIE ALONE.


Other pet peeves:
Texting on dates: PUT YOUR DANG PHONE DOWN! I'm only with you for like an hour.. you are not a doctor.. you are NOT on call at a hospital.. the world isn't going to end while we're on our date.. and if it does... nobody's gonna TEXT you about it fool.
i am in front of you.. i should be a priority..

Guys that aren't gentlemen: get my door.. say please and thank you.. treat me with respect.. or don't expect a second THOUGHT let alone a second date!

Guys that talk like they don't speak english.. or like they didn't pass the 2nd grade:
'yo guuurl wasss good?'.. clearly not your literacy.
'i wuzz like thinkin we should get togetha or sumfin fun reeallss soon.. ya feel me?'...yaaaa.. i'm gonna say NO.
'what doing'.. excuse me?
'you h8ter.. you don like mah staheeeeze?'
no you retard. i don't... speak english.

Guys that say 'lol': to ME.. it's a sign of femininity.. when in an actual convo would you stop and say.. "lol".. never.
say haha. it shows that you're actually laughing.
-i fully admit that this is one of my retarded ones. i apologize.. but it bugs.

I"m gonna throw in when people don't return phone calls and/or text back.. cuz i never ever do and i know it bugs people... i'm sorry!!
buuut. let me chastise my people..
fellow lazy people that hate cell phones... we have 3 seconds to shoot someone a text back or 10 seconds to answer a phone call no matter what we're doing.. we need to be more considerate.

People that don't say thank you:
This is HUGE with girls on dates... hun.. the dude just paid for your entire evening.. nope.. nope he didn't HAVE to... it's nowhere in the rule book! he just did something VERY nice for you... and i KNOW he likes to be appreciated... SAY THANK YOU!!
If i'm on a date with a guy and he's not nice to the waiting staff.. i'm like seeee yyaaaaaa you jerk.. treat every single person like they're important. be classy.

Someone who wont take the person they're dating around their friends:
What are you....? ashamed of them? If YOU like them.. chances are.. your friends are gonna be JUST fine with them! and if you see it going ANYWHERE.. and you would like to have SOME friends in the future... you need to mesh the 2.

A common one i've found with girls:
guys that just want to 'hang out' and not 'date'..
where is hanging out gonna get you? nowhere. ask a chick on a date.


A common one with dudes:
Girls think that guys have to initiate EVERYTHING..
girls girls GIRLS!!! yall need to man up and don't make them do ALL the work!!
ya at first it's nice to be pursued.. but if you don't give ANYTHING back.. they're gonna get tired of chasin it..
show affection back! kiss them first sometimes! make them dinner! pay for the dollar movie every once in a while! let them know that you care!


The problem with being human is that we ALL have imperfections.. and chances are.. we find our OWN imperfections unattractive and annoying in other people...
THATS BAD.
we need to learn to accept people how they are.. and when the couple 'changing' peeves come up.. then it's ok to talk about them...
if you start out fundamentally saying EVERY. SINGLE. THING. you want to change about someone... go find someone else!!
Don't judge.. you're not perfect. Don't gossip.. you would hate to be on the losing end of it..
and take constructive criticism with an open mind and a grain of salt.. cuz people are DIFFERENT... they're SUPPOSED TO BE! Everyone can be refined.. and when we find and date people that make us better people.. we will know that we've won.

BE different. BE yourself.. and you'll BE happy.


Until Tomorrow!
xoxox
-Callymon