alright.. no i didn't join the entire universe last night watching the Bachelor.. "women tell all"..
so.. naturally.. i watched it online like 10 minutes ago..
First off, you have to know... for some reason i HATE the bachelor. Every episode i'm yellin at the tv.. "YOU TOOL!!" and "REALLY BRAD.. REALLY?!" and all sorts of fun stuff. I think the entire show is playing mind games with the women of America.. it's validating the relationship stereotypes and clearly.. it's hurting a lot of them.
So.. first thought. Chris Harrison.. You brat. (except for him standing up for michelle.. that was classy.)
If someone doesn't say exactly what he wants them to say on camera to raise his ratings or serve the purpose he thinks they should on the show he manipulates their words so that it fits into his plan... example? Ashley H. sits in front of him after clearly a traumatic experience for her and is being classy and gracious and trying not to say anything too extreme.. she tried to stay OUT of getting down brad's throat about the situation. She took the entire experience and said that she didn't regret it and she was learning from it which was definitely one of the classier approaches to the entire episode.. so what does Chris do? "What do you feel that unspoken connection was between you and Brad?" she tells him she doesn't know and tries to move on. "Do you think it was love?" Chris asks... Ash responds "this early on i don't really know"
within like 5 sentences he's down her throat AGAIN and straight up TELLS HER..."i'm sorry.. but you were in love." how dare he.. how the crap would he know that? tool box.
Second..
having been a part of a reality show experience you learn how much editing goes into the actual show. They cast people and then they pigeon hole people where they want them. They have to have a drama queen.. they have to have every kind of stereotype and they have to play girls against each other. I truly believe that they pin pointed Michelle right off the bat as the one that they could play up to be the brat. They saw her out there personality and used it against her.
Living in a house with the only outside contact and influence is what the network gives you.. of course you're going to be manipulated into saying things that they want you too.. They ask certain questions to get you to say certain things in interviews and then they air them with things that are irrelevant. Yes.. you say the things you say on camera.. they don't edit sentences together.. but how many of us have said outrageous things in literally the heat of the moment that the next sentence we over compensate for or laugh off...
They didn't give Michelle the luxury of that. How many of her comments were sound bites? How many were just stuck in somewhere..? How does America even know that she said that during that week or episode...? She could've said marvelous things about every single girl right after telling the camera she wishes they were attacked by apes.. yet the CAMERA.. (the editor).. is given the ability to pick and choose what he wants to use.
Like i said before.. i think the show is a sham.. but i do think that the Michelle attacks.. especially on the "Women tell all" got out of hand. She made the show interesting and hilarious.. and yes. dramatic.. reality tv.. dramatic? weird right..?
Ok third.. Ashley H. apologized for being insecure about her relationship with brad after seeing him with the other women..
It's so easy for us as viewers to go.. dang Ash.. chill OUT!! Just fall for him.. just GO WITH IT! see how the other girls are? whats WRONG with you!!!
But now put yourself in her shoes.. (btw.. are now very sexy shoes.. can anyone say holler at her makeover..? you go girl. way to come out on top after a break up... as brad said.. MERCY!!)
You are a girl.. that's falling for a guy.. that sees him with 20 other women acting the exact same way he acts with you............ how on earth could you feel one OUNCE of security in the relationship..? How could you NOT want him to reassure you every 5 seconds how he feels about you.. when in 2 takes and 30 seconds of film.. he'll be professing the SAME love for like 6 other chicks!! It's easy to be secure about a relationship when you know how someone feels about you.. and the more she fell for him... the more vulnerable she became.. which in turn.. lead to more insecurity because she was literally having to COMPETE for his attention and his love.
This show is WHACK. It makes everything in a relationship lie in the hands of only ONE person in it.. while the other person (or in this case.. other 25 people) sits and waits for them to decide if they're "fawwlling for them". You see what he does.. he tells every single one of them that they're an "incredible woman that [he] could see [himself] marrying".. maybe it makes him a good guy.. but in my eyes.. it makes him a TOOL! tool. tool tool.
he leads them all on and confuses them along the way while us viewers are (yes incredibly entertained) but we're watching it happen.. watching the connections being made.. with basically every girl.
Ya. duuh.. every girl HAD to know what they were getting themselves into.. and hey.. as much as i criticize the show.. i still watched it.
But MERCY brad.. the world doesn't revolve around you.. and as soon as the show ends.. maybe you'll get a dose of that reality.
My vote? I'm obsessed with Emily. i think she's perfect. i think she deserves the best.
But i'm not tool box brad.. so we'll see what he decides.
I don't really remember the rest of "women tell all".. those were just the highlights for me.
Everybody wants to find love.. these shows just tend to pick the 25 people in America that want to be in love THE MOST!!! And they love to use their vulnerability against them.. they spin it to make every single one of them seem really really desperate.
I followed the "on the wings of love" season really closely with my roomies...
since day one.. every single one of us went.. oh that vienna chick is goin home FIRST! woooo.. how could he want to marry HER! .. you see how wrong WE were... jake..? sketch ball.
haha really though... anyone that goes on national television to find someone to marry... couldn't be allll that together..
however.. not gonna lie.. i totally wanna be the bachelorette.. you see the the guys that go on it? HOT-TIES. no doubt.. annnddd where else are you going to find that you can date (and kiss) 25 people at the same time and all of them know about it.. are ok with it... and they all only want YOU!! psh... sign me up!!
The interesting thing.... in one second they're celebrating marriage and the journey to find your significant other..
When 2 hours later.. same cast.. same network.. is showing you that the single life is where its AT!! (BACHELOR PAD)
how come all of the people in America that they found that were "serious about settling down" and "really there for the right reasons.. to find and fall in love" .... are all the sudden only down to get down with an entire house of beautiful people. hey hey.. i'm not saying its bad.. single life works better for some people.. and yes. i will be watching the Bachelor Pad as well.. but just food for thought.
to be completely honest.. i'll probably post again today. this bachelor thing just couldn't go without recognition in my mind. my head was gonna explode.. ugh. Tool box Brad..
Xo for now..
-Callymon
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