Honey

Ever hear the phrase you can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar?
Ok.. well what if it's not necessarily salad dressing vs. frosting.. it's that your honey is disgusting.. your bees suck.
No matter what kind of relationship you're in.. friendship.. dating.. engaged.. married.. enemies.. you're bound to battle with communication and confrontation...
Being able to see different perspectives becomes important.. allowing your ego to get a few cuts and bruises... and learning the art of an apology becomes essential.

"Im sorry" and "i was wrong" are the two hardest things for people to say in relationships.. it's like pulling teeth. To admit to a flaw, lapse of judgement, or complete brain fart is admitting that you're not perfect.. a hard concept for some people to grasp. So, when the spotlight of blame shines on them, they abandon the art of the apology.. and go with some version of "i'm sorry that you made this mistake" or "i'm sorry that you made me make this mistake" or worst of all "you should be sorry that I made this mistake". Completing the douche cycle of: make mistake --> try to cover up mistake --> get caught --> feed on insecurities of person i'm dating/confidence in their wanting to be with me --> somehow blame them for the mistake i made --> get them to feel guilty for me making the mistake --> get them to apologize... until they circle back to the beginning of "make mistake" again.
Ever been in a relationship where every time anything happens.. any disagreement... miscommunication.. or flat out intentional wrong doing... the apology you get sounds like this...?

Relationships shouldn't be a contest of who can have the upper hand. It shouldn't be tally-marks on the wall and keeping score.. When in a committed relationship.. it should be about WHAT is right rather than WHO is right. When the focus goes completely on resolving the issue and getting past it.. both parties involved should be more than willing to take responsibility and move on!


The art of the apology:

Here are a few pointers and a few rules to follow when trying to resolve issues in your relationships with other humans.

1. Be sincere.
This seems like a no-brainer... however, in a world where you never know who is your friend and who has your picture as a dart board based on conversations and interacting with people, sincerity is highly under-valued and underrated. You don't have to push your concerns under the rug just because you want to avoid confrontation. You don't have to back down from an argument just because you CAN pretend like everything is ok. Pretending will get you nowhere.. in life.. and in your relationships.

Which brings us to #2..
2. Be clear.

Now that we aren't going to push our concerns under our metaphorical rugs.. and we're putting on our boxing gloves.. you have to learn how to fight.. and learn how to apologize.
No low blows.. no emotional rants that have to do with nothing.. and no bringing up irrelevant jabs that you think will help you win the war.. no "well i just KNOW your sister hates me and it's troubling me and i try really hard!" when you're argument is about them not calling you back the night before.
Being clear about what you're apologizing for will help you remain sincere as well...
For instance, if you have a girlfriend that tends to be UBER jealous and you didn't know or didn't realize and were talking to a friend that's a girl and she freaks out.. out of nowhere because of it..
Apologize.
You don't have to apologize for talking to another girl.. because let's be honest.. you're not sorry for that.. the reason you're sorry.. and therefore the reason why you're apologizing is that you didn't know you talking to another girl would upset your girlfriend. You're SORRY because you hurt someone that you care about unintentionally. So... you remain clear in your argument and talk reasonably about it.
You don't say.. "i'm sorry i talked to another girl... i'll never talk to another girl ever again!"
because then you set unrealistic expectations as well as apologize for something that you're not really sorry for.. which lets be honest.. would make you crazy.
You say.. "I'm sorry. I didn't know/realize that me talking to that other girl would upset you. I would never intentionally hurt you. You know i like YOU and not HER. Im sorry if i made you feel otherwise.. you have nothing to worry about."
She hopefully would follow up with "i'm sorry im completely insane. i know you weren't trying to make me cut myself.. i just am a jealous homie.. and would appreciate it if you recognized that and tried to make me feel like im the only chick in your heart.. i will also try and work on my hulk-like jealous tantrums."
Even if you're not sorry about something your bf/gf is complaining about.. if you care about them.. you SHOULD care about hurting them.. however ridiculous the event or indiscretion was that did it. You can always help a confrontation or argument move forward by giving a sincere.. clear.. apology for making them feel bad.

3. Don't take completely unnecessary blame.
Some people, when faced with an argument feel as if taking all blame and avoiding having to hash something out is "them taking the high road". They give themselves medals in their sleep when they wake up with emotional bruises over and over again
Saying, "no.. no.. it's my fault! You didn't do anything wrong! I'M sorry that you made a mistake..".. may seem like the mother teresa thing to do.. but you're creating bad BAD habits that will be tremendously hard to break in the future. You're creating tyrants and making yourself out to be a very comfortable punching bag. Conflicts/fights don't have to be mean .. all out fist fights! If avoiding arguments is your struggle, remain tolerant.. but still present a two sided battle.
If they try to turn all "Gretchen Weiners" on you and make you feel like it was YOUR fault that THEY cheated on you.. or YOUR fault that THEY completely forgot about something.. and refuse to take responsibility.. first off.. RUN. cuz homie... this person is a tool.
and second.. give a clear apology... that you're very extremely sorry that their tool like ways keep them from seeing that no this wasn't your fault it was theirs. .. and ya you can apologize for yelling or making it a big deal or whatever the heck you did... but then say.. yes i'm sorry for what I did.. but you did do that.. and it made me feel this way... i'm not going to ride you about it forever, i would however appreciate an apology because THIS kind of behavior isn't something i like and we should both work on it.
boom.

4. Don't avoid admitting you're wrong.

If you did something wrong.. however small it was..or gastronomical . you need to take full responsibility for your actions.. who would've thought. congratulations.. welcome to grownup land. I know it's hard.. but it's necessary if you want to be a tolerable human.
Whether it be something google-able.. or some big bad sin... put your pride aside and deal with WHAT is right.. no matter WHO said it.
Your pride wont be very much fun to kiss.. it wont keep you warm and cuddle with you in the long winter ahead.. it'll just make your head bigger. Which isn't a good look for anyone.

5. Once apologies are given and arguments are had.. move on.

Girls.. in my experience, this is something you like to do .. A LOT.
Remember when i said in #2. be clear.. "don't bring up irrelevant jabs". uh chyeah.. that goes here too..
No. you don't get extra points for bringing up something they did wrong 6 months.. 2 weeks.. or 4 days ago. It wont help your argument to point out all the other times they've been wrong.. or that chick he kissed when you were on your break 2 months before.. or the girl he texted right as you were getting together..
You've already hashed that argument out.. now move on from it! burry it! it's dead! no zombie-arguments allowed!
If you never let things go.. things will add up fast.. and your brain will explode trying to keep up with all the things your bf/gf is doing wrong.. you'll miss out on everything they're doing right!


Fighting and conflict is inevitable in every relationship... it's how you handle them that separates the great relationships from the ones that suck. Take pride out of your relationship and you will be so much happier.. focus on WHAT is right, not WHO is right... and, together, you'll always be right! Make sure the honey you're using to catch your flies.. is sweet and edible.. otherwise you may as well be using vinegar.

Until Later..
xoxo
-Callymon

Double Double Toil and Trouble

It's the most wonderful time of the year..
The time when you contemplate deleting your Facebook because of your suddenly 'politically active' friends.. Mid-terms are over.. wedding season has died down.. and you learn which of your friends is all talk with their modest-is-hottest facade.. the ones that really just have a caged little ho inside them waiting to be unleashed.
That's right folks. Its the most wonderful time of the year! ... Halloween.
The night.. or weekend, let's be honest.. that you get to escape yourself and be someone else... a time where you wont get arrested for not wearing pants.. and its completely socially acceptable to rank the boys in your apartment complex by who would make the prettiest girl.
You really learn things about yourself.... and the guys that you thought you wanted to date until you saw them in guy-liner and green tights.. and nothing else. We're in college so OBVIOUSLY halloween is like it is in Mean Girls.. only worse.

The creativity is thrown out the door... it's now a contest of who can wear the least amount of clothing and still get away with saying they're dressed up as something other than a Victoria's Secret model or an Olympic Swimmer. It's like round 2 for swim suit season... only for sluts.

It's cool. i know im offending a long tradition of bingeing on candy while wearing your underwear.. and i don't mean to. Halloween is my favorite holiday! woo! however....
we need to address a new issue.
People always talk about the slutty chicks on halloween.... uh.. what about the slutty DUDES.
Yes. we get it. you work out. taking off your shirt comes as second nature to you... but at least PRETEND you're dressing up as something other than a douche bag. It's a complete double standard.
Guys go out... scam on hot chicks in cellophane dresses... judge them for being ultra liberal with their privacy and public decency... and complain. ok they don't complain. but they should...seriously girls.. put some freakin clothes on. just because you dressed up as a hussy for halloween... doesn't mean you're fooling anyone... we now know what's under your sweater set... a cookoo in a cardigan. you let our dignity out of the bag... along with most of your butt... and now.. you can't get it back.. due to the extensive facebook pictures and rumors about you and the hot fireman at that one party.
I'm just sayin... be aware.
anyway.. back to dudes. Y'all are hussy's too.
Im gonna give my 5 second preachy speechy...
YOU ARE THE MESSAGE. BOOM.
You'll get more high 5's dressed up as a fully clothed teenage mutant ninja turtle... than a chick in her bra.. with wings on. and land an actual decent boyfriend if there happens to be one lingering in the crowd.
Angel wings and butt show costume? probably making out in a sticky-floored-corner somewhere with a guy with a fake mullet and a leaf as his costume... HIS WHOLE COSTUME.
you decide.
ok. done. you lived.

All you college single co-eds that are just looking for some halloween action... do what you do.. hot people will hook up with hot people.. naked people.. will probably gravitate towards the naked people.. so whatever vibe you're puttin out.. you'll most likely get it back. Adam will find Eve.. The avengers will assemble.. you wont ask last names and you'll get on with your lives.

All you other.. normal people.. with some moral decency.. rent a kid.. and take them trick-or-treating. Then pull an obama and take their well deserved candy and eat it even though you did nothing for it.
It's a win-win! You can post on facebook how you're being politically aware.. AND show everyone that you're good with kids and will be great at being married someday.

If you need some costume ideas... Ellen is as helpful as ever..

And in case you haven't watched any scary movies this season... allow me to give you something that will make you NEVER SLEEP AGAIN......

FURBYS ARE BACK.. ya. NOW try and think one happy thought ever again... nope. told you.

Happy Halloween!
Until Later xoxox

- Callymon

..The Need For Speed..

Where I live, everybody runs. Figuratively.. and literally. 

You can look on any Provo, Utah street.. in any weather condition.. at ANY time of the day or night.. and find several people.. just running. They run for joy, they run for fitness, they run into dating, they run into marriage, everything is one big sprint with every runner competing for the fastest speed from one point to another.. it's sick. 

Heyy I just met you.... don't know if you're crazy ... But we've dated 2 months.. So marry me maybe? 

Slow your roll sparky.. you're about to pull a muscle. 

Guys. I don't think I've washed my car in 2 months.. or talked to close relatives.. or decided if I like my new bedspread.. or finished a jar of peanut butter. 

Now, while all of you fine people are insisting that you’re in your right mind.. sprinting down the isle into your future.. getting hitched and planning weddings.. let me first say.. congratulations. 

You've won the game.. And finally are deTERMINED to get out of the stressful and confusing life of dating for the rest of forever. I commend you. 

That being said. Before you say "I do".. "you don't". 

So right now... all of us are still in the same stage of the dating game.... not hitched... and semi-single. 

suckers. 

Pause.. stretch a little bit.. and breathe. 

Now. take that smile off of your ignorant blind little love struck face.. This crap just got real. 

I like to believe the best in people..I want all people to rock. However. In this case... not exploring and addressing all sides of an issue.. or human.. could be detrimental to.. hmm.. I don't know... YOUR SOUL AND LIFE FOREVER!? 

so. while love is blind... let me provide you with some glasses that we will refer to as... red flaggers. i'll be your seeing-eye dog for the moment.

I'm not you. and I will in no way tell you how to make decisions or which ones to make at all... I will however provide you with information and opinions that you can take or leave.. choose to ignore... orrrrrrrr at least stop and think about. You’re welcome. 

In the past couple months, my friends and i have compared notes... Guys and girls.. married and single.. about red flags in relationships that they wish they would've seen sooner. That if they would've realized... they would've either taken care of.. or gotten the FREAK OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP BEFORE THE SATAN-LIKE HOMIE THEY WERE DATING ATE THEIR HAPPINESS FOR BREAKFAST. 

Red Flag --> Jealousy. 

The first one we came up with... Jealousy.. Possessiveness.. and the "you're not allowed to" syndrome. 

Seeing as there's probably a little bit of each of these in most relationships.. the spectrum on this is wide.  Most girls get jealous.. it's built into our DNA... most guys are protective... it's built in theirs. and merging two lives becomes a bit of a game of give and take... 

that's not what I'm talking about. That crap can get figured out and gotten over. 

I'm talking about being in a serious enough relationship that if trust is an issue... YOU HAVE ISSUES. and insecurity rules who does what with who. 

Yes. jealousy can mean that someone cares... or.. it can mean.. that someone is PSYCHO. If you can't talk to family.. or hang out with buddies... and you're DATING... NOT MARRIED YET.. you think this is going to get BETTER when you tie the not?!!? are you on CRACK?! 

no. marriage amplifies things like this. nip it in the bud while you STILL HAVE A CHANCE MAN! 

There are levels that remain in the healthy range.. but if you can't talk to people that have always been in your life.. uh.. like your family.. because it takes a fraction of your attention off of this crackhead you're dating... DROP THEM LIKE THEY'RE HOT. 

Red Flag ---> Fighting.

alright. now I'm not a moron. i know fighting is inevitable in every relationship.. every marriage is going to be hard a LITTLE BIT. so look at the WAY you fight.. and the things you fight ABOUT.. remember.... YOU ARE DATING.. THIS IS THE EASY PART!!! do NOT mistake confrontation or contention as passion. sure the make-up.. making out.. is great. but homie.... that's not going to last you forever. 

Look at the fundamentals in your relationship... what are you fighting about...? How do they act when they win or lose an argument? cause once again... marriage is NOT GOING TO MAKE THESE THINGS GO AWAY. marriage will only amplify what you're throwing the kitchen sink at each other about now. 

put your red flag goggles on.. and evaluate your fighting. healthy? or at a level that in 5 years you'll seriously consider committing a crime.. like murder. 

Red Buttons ---> it’s in the details. 

Now that i've popped 3 blood vessels on my keyboard from caps-lock yelling so much.. I’ll take it down a notch to the red buttons. 

Look at their relationship with their family... these are people they are comfortable with and don't feel like they have to be on their best behavior for. If they don't get along with a particular sibling or parent.. find out why.. Don't pull a Jake and Vienna (from the bachelor duh) and find out that all the girls in the house HATE Vienna with a fiery passion and assume that it must be because they're jealous of her.. because one day in the near future you'll wake up to find that all the girls just had their psycho-radar on and were trying to do you a favor. 

If they have a good relationship with their family.. wahoo green flag!

Look at how they treat pets.. if they don't like dogs.. they have no soul. 

personal opinion? i think not. 

Look at the way they interact with your family and the way you interact with theirs.. to some people this isn’t a deal-breaker.. but be aware.. cuz you’re not going to live your holidays for the rest of your lives in isolation away from these people that gave you LIFE. Just sayin. 

Look at how they treat people that wont further them in life in anyway, that they wont gain anything from, like waiters, or room mates, or crazy strangers. People they don’t feel like they need to impress may bring out a different side of them that you haven’t paid attention to. 

Like i said, all relationships are unique. I’m not going to tell you what decisions to make, or how or when to make them. Just make sure you know the decision, the argument, the defense, and the honest probability of your future happiness with the person you want by your side forever. Marry the person you can’t live without.. not the person you know you can live with. Don’t settle. Cuz life would suck if you did. 

I know they say "when you know.. you know!" .. and I know I'm not going to get it until it happens to me or whatever... but if you don't KNOW the person... things get complicated. I’m not saying it has never worked.. there are always exceptions.. but forever is a dang long time. take the time to get to know this person you are thinking you want to spend it with. 

While life has the potential to be all puppies and rainbows.. to be incredible..  don’t let a relationship status-change on fb and a pretty party in a pretty dress.. ruin that for you. Don’t settle for less than the best for you. This is real life. We’re making real life decisions.. this is big folks. so before you take the plunge.. hold up.. wait a minute.. put your psycho-radar in it. Be smart. train for this marathon of marriage.. don't start sprinting into a snake-pit blindfolded. 

cuz hey.. you're just married.. she turns out crazy... you want to run now? she's having your baby. boom.

This is your life and future. Think about it... and let go of this unnecessary need for speed. 

until later 

xoxo 

- Callymon 

School of Love

I truly believe that knowledge is power.
We begin our scholastic journeys together at a young age. As they spoon feed us material from the given curriculum, we soak up the possibilities of our futures among peers.. dreaming of what lies ahead.
The knowledge we are provided with varies very little, offering power for the masses, and little opportunities for educational and preferential expression. As we grow and blossom in our educational careers, we are provided with more options, adding forks and exits to what has been up to this point, a pretty straight and narrow path. Through Jr. High and High School we pick and choose our schedules and what classes we'll most likely skip weekly.. and then we get to college. Areas of literal expertise are ours for the choosing. Blank road maps that will lead anywhere we are willing to imagine. At this collegiate level, our horizon broadens and we, if we choose to listen, learn about ourselves in entirely new ways.
At this age, we are expected to sit down and decide who and what matters to us, and what exactly we are willing to do and sacrifice in order to get it.
No pressure right? Oh no worries... they've provided us with every kind of class you can imagine to help us figure it out! I mean, when in the middle of an emotional, spiritual, physical, or intellectual crisis, who doesn't think "man i'm glad i took that synchronized swimming 101 class" or "WWSD.. what would shakespeare do?!".
I am so grateful for opportunities to learn and for classes that allow you to follow dreams and make possibilities realities... but what then? Where are our classes on stress.. love.. fear...heartbreak.. the 15 uses of nutella.. decision making..? What text book do we turn to with equations of the heart and soul? WIth questions of identity and purpose?
We learn all of these things.. and then don't know what to do with them. You're a doctor... you spend like half your life in medical school.. you graduate... get a great job... your life is planned out for you.... the end? You study to become an accountant.. political dictator.. seasoned writer... public relations guru.. rock star... and then what? Your life becomes puppies and rainbows? No. Logic makes sense. It can be measured and taught. Formulas and equations can be taught.. strategies learned.. It all makes sense once you understand it.
If we truly believe.. which i do.. that the things that matter the most in life are people.. not things... relationships.. not reason.. then why do we fail to educate the masses on the things that will make us the happiest?
If only... if only..they offered love 101... decision making 305... fulfilling your potential 900.. secrets of the universe 112... creating a purposeful identity 760..  we would be prepared to face LIFE not just OCCUPATION.

The text books of love that we're fed along with our logic, are the fairy tales that give us what? "and they lived happily ever after..".. alright homies... prove it.
Where are the movies that show you what happens after they fall in love and have the big kiss? The only thing we're taught about love.. is that it's full of sparkles and fireworks.. and when you KNOW.. you just KNOW.
Does that sound logical to anyone? no. And because we're taught to believe this.... we only look for sparkly relationships in where we get rainbows and puppies.. and disregard the ones that bring any form of discomfort or fear. We immediately jump to conclusions that something is wrong with THIS relationship because we're too scared or stubborn to move anywhere with it.. and hey now... cinderella was never SECOND GUESSING HERSELF when she was dancing on glass and off marrying prince charming!! They just sparkled and shined right down the isle.. and on into... "ever after... happily.."..obviously.
The reality of love... is that everyone is afraid of it. No one will admit that they were terrified or unwilling to change to make things work.. they claim that they followed the model of sparkly butterflies that led them straight to their prince.

Let's throw those love text books out the window and write our own. One's full of logic and reason that both our mind and hearts understand.

The best place to start... is with ourselves.

Kindergarten: Customizing relationships.

I was a part of a very interesting discussion tonight. 2 guys and 2 girls, not looking to date any one of the other (at least as far as i know) sat down and talked about relationships. Our individual needs, wants, expectations, and past experiences. I was genuinely surprised at how different we were.
The interesting part came when we started talking about what we were looking for, and what we felt people should see in us.
Stop what you're doing right now. Imagine that you have the opportunity to tell someone exactly how to love you. Not necessarily explaining your perfect companion.. but you are to explain to someone else how to make you fall in love with them.. and how exactly you want to be loved back.
I wanted someone to value my independence, who was able to be their own person, and be secure enough be alone with themselves in a room and not feel uncomfortable.
One of the guys wanted someone that would always be with them and want to be with them, not necessarily having to carry on conversation or even touching... but to be physically around them all the time.
The other girl wanted a guy that was in her face all the time that she would never ever get sick of.
The other guy wanted someone to want him.. but didn't necessarily need to be with her all the time, like he wanted her to need to.

Figure yourSELF out, what you want, what you need, what you're willing to compromise.. find out how to love YOU.. and then don't be afraid to communicate that.

This first lesson needs to be that every person you meet is so incredibly different from anyone you've ever known.. and as far as i know... nobody reads minds. You may find yourself ruling out relationships that could be wonderful based on the fact that you expected something out of it, that you didn't communicate.
You have the ability to love and be loved exactly how you want to be. So figure it out.. take yourself on a date and get to know YOU. if you don't know you... you're gonna confuse EVVERRRYYONE else trying to get to know the undecided opinion-less bafoon that you look at in the mirror. This isn't just for single people, anyone in or out of a relationship should take the time to get to know the person they actually are, as opposed to the person they assume they've always been. Customize your love like you customize your personality. Make it one of a kind, and perfect for the people in the relationship.

1st Grade: Some times things happen.

Honestly, after all these years, i still believe in everything happens for a reason. However, my understanding of the phrase has changed.
I believe that understanding, and providing understanding, is the key to every relationship in your life. If you can try to provide the logic and emotion behind decisions you've made or are making in a relationship... WHY you over reacted.. WHY you don't want to continue dating someone.. how you came to the conclusions that you did... you may even talk yourself out of your own stupidity and see that you didn't make sense.. and you need to change something.
Understanding is all i can ever ask for.
However.
The new understanding that i've come to understand..... is that sometimes.... things happen.. and you're left guessing. Sometimes people don't provide logical explanations for what they do and how they act. Sometimes.... you don't understand.
And in these cases.. before you get frustrated.. and start building walls and digging holes in your heart.. try to learn to let things go. accept that maybe you'll never understand... but that all is well that ends well.... and you have just been provided an opportunity to rewrite your own happy ending.
I'm not saying you have to celebrate when something doesn't work out that you wanted to... i'm not sadistic.. or retarded... I"m just saying that rather than search for unattainable understanding of the unfathomable... let it go.. and dive in to something.. or someone else.
don't let it forever affect your ability to form lasting.. trusting relationships. You'll be fine. I promise.

2nd Grade: A little give.. a little take.

Please consider in love.. that everyone needs to talk.... and everyone needs to listen. Generally.. people are better at one.. and worse and the other. If you're a giver... work on being able to accept someone else doing something for you... if you're a taker... work on the ability to give someone more of yourself than you take from them.
If you are good at talking.. don't talk. Listen.
If you're good at listening.. don't just listen.. express your thoughts and feelings.
Stretching yourself in a relationship.. will only make you more invested in what you have with that person. It will allow you to balance yourself out in someone else.. and help teach you to need someone else.


As much as i could go on up into the high school years... and help all of us graduate with the heart of another.... it's like 3 am.

We all don't need lessons on how to make someone fall in love with us.... or how to make ourselves fall in love with someone else... there are plenty of past blogs for that.
The hard part is getting it to go both ways. and there are no books for that.
If we can constantly strive to be the best kind of person we can imagine ourselves to ever be... our love lives will never fail us. If we love the way that we want to be loved... and surround ourselves with people we actually want to be with.. as opposed to people we think we should be with.. one day.. we'll have happily ever after.
Look first at the faults in yourself before accusing someone else of being the problem in your relationships.. and never compromise who you are for who you think someone else wants you to be.
There's making things work... and making things worse. And giving up yourself in the process of looking for someone else.. is retarded.
Feel free to add your own chapters to our love/life book! There are many grades to go in our school of life and love.

Until Later..
xoxo
-Callymon

Discovery Channel..

Who invented this torturous week that makes all college students contemplate suicide?
Happy Finals week.. and may the odds be ever in your favor..
Where's the trust?! We went to your class all semester (except that mental health week we needed when it was like 70 degrees in the middle of January).. we took all your pointless quizzes.. can't you just assume we learned oh so much from you? you REALLY have to test us on things you know for a fact we're going to attempt to cram into our brains the week before... regurgitate just for your hour of death test.. and forget for the rest of forever? These are supposed to be our glory days! And you know once we get senioritis in high school we never grow out of it...
As finals continue to kill me... i'll continue to take these breaks between study sessions that are longer than they should be..

I will warn you.. this post will not solve world hunger.. or your relationship problems.. however, it will provide you with a temporary break from thinking all together..
This is the discovery channel of pointlessness...

6 things i discovered this semester..

1. Red give me movies or give me death Box

Yaa sure i knew that redbox existed and what the whole idea of it was. I'm not retarded.. i don't live under a rock. But it's one of those things that until you try it... you have NO IDEA the impact that it will have on your life of procrastination. EPIC. I highly suggest that you go and explore.


2. Clarisonic face washing brush buzz thing of amazingness Mia

If you're wondering if it'll change your life... TRUST ME. it'll change your life. It A) feels awesome. 

B.) clears up all the yucky stuff on your skin.. and C) comes in adorable colors.. mine is purple, like this one.. It's worth every cent. 

3. Green looks like death but tastes like happiness 2-O

It looks nothing short of disgusting.. but it's amazing! My mama has a crew of milfs that all work their little buns off together.. they've handed their health destiny over to my cousin.. whom i like to call "the milf whisperer" she got them all HOOKED on this stuff.. so naturally.. callymon tried it. It's amazing. seriously. yay for health and not dying. woo!

4.  My Fab Iphone Genie savior of all bad dates and unfortunate dead phone incidents Zagg

It charges your phone.. when you're not by a plug. uh.. duh. and doubles as a defibrillator and jet pack.. not really. but i love it. especially because i'm convinced that apple is making their batteries die sooner and sooner in a plot to take over the spot as the monopoly phone company.. oh wait. 

5. The dance dare.. 

Ellen.. one of my favorite humans ever... challenges all of the people that come on her show.. as well as eager fame hungry audience members.. to a double dog dance dare.. it's a fantastic way to spend a saturday.. or monday.. and like all of the other discoveries.. you wont know until you try.. and then you'll be addicted and go around dancing behind everyone.. looking ridiculous.. and having so much fun.

6. The JATD app...
If you enjoy quirky humor and like to laugh.. and your twitter doesn't refresh as fast as you may like when you're in classes that you cant stand... get JATD!! Just a Typical Day will fill your life with puppies and rainbows. 

4 things i've learned this semester...

1. Completely clear contacts SUCK. you can't see them when they fall out.. or get lost in your eyes. In the last week i've almost completely accepted the fact that i'll most likely go blind from the contact LOST somewhere in my freakin eye!! and then i got it out. 

2. Cell phones have airplane mode... when you dont want to talk to anyone... but still want to play bejeweled blitz on your cellular... flip it to airplane mode. Just don't forget to switch it back.. or your parents.. room mates.. and friends may sent out search parties. 

3. There's finally a "hide all engagement announcements" button on facebook!!!.. nope sorry. we can dream though right?  

4. You have to be happy single or you wont be happy in a relationship. It sounds cliche but it's true. Learn to be happy where ever you are in your life and marital status... if you're always happy no matter the circumstance, guess what...! you'll be happy... it's basically rocket science. 

5 sad songs i've written this semester: 

1. Anything..

2. Shadow Man...

3. Unlovable.. 

4.  Don't make me love you again

5. Whole

Dang.. i write bloody sad songs.. if you need a gateway into depression.. hey.. i'll provide the soundtrack.. its fine.

5 movies i'll definitely see this summer... (and reasons why)

1. The Avengers...

reasons? have you seen Chris Hemsworth? yep.

2. Madagascar 3.

.. because of the polka-dot afro zebra. obviously

3. Snow White and the Huntsman..

uh... Chris Hemsworth again. duh.

4. Rock of Ages..

Cuz it looks awesome.

5. Abraham Lincoln Vampire Slayer.. no.. not really. that looks retarded.

5. The Dark Knight Rises.

Cuz it looks so incredibly Bad A.


3 reasons this will be the Summer of Love...

1. bearlake is so much better when you have a homie to tube.. boat.. lay out.. and nap with.

2. the world may end in december.. it may be the last summer we have.

3. and i need happy songs dang it!



5 boys that i've decided i will date in my lifetime/ have been dating in my head for quite sometime now..

1. Zac Efron.

we have HISTORY.. duh. can't fight a hsm love like ours.

2. Hunter Parish..

uh.. we have history.. when he sang on my album when i was 11 there was a definite connection that we both can't deny..

3. Chase Crawford..

uuh.. he's perfect. annd he went to high school with one of my friends. so. obviously that means we have to get married.


4. Ryan Reynolds

 He's perfect looking annnnd... he's hilarious.

5. Ryan Gosling

He a) stars in the best movie of all time... b) was in the mickey mouse club.. and c) looks incredible in a tailored suit with a little bit of scruff. yuuum.


4 things i hate...

1. Rude people. There's no reason to be mean. be nice.. retards.
2. Dark Chocolate.. why would they make chocolate.. that's bitter? so counter productive.
3. Gossiping. It's stupid. worry about your own dang lives.
4. finals.

2 things i want to do but probably will never be brave enough to..

1. Skydiving. the idea of it is incredible.. but no. i'm not going to jump out of a perfectly good airplane that's NOT going down.

2. Dye my hair this color..

the second i decide to go back blonde.. i'd probably end up bald.


7 things i'll never understand...

1. Where all the lost bobbie pins go.. you can buy a million.. and in 3 days.. you can't find ONE!

2. Why Nsync ever broke up.. i hated saying bye bye bye to boybands.. but now that they're comin back.. it makes me ill.

3. how facebook is legal... its a way to literally stalk every person you know.. and dont know.. without being arrested. Thank you ztalkerberg.. we love you.

4. how people pretend to hate Justin Bieber... he's adorable. he's talented. he's a bazillionare.. he wears purple. and he's like 12! what's the problem? and now he raps! bonus..

5. how they haven't invented a sarcastic font yet... if texting and emailing and facebooking really is the dark and dismal future of communication we're all headed for.. we at LEAST want to be understood!

6. Stingy red mango workers... you wont get paid any less if you actually fill my $10 cup of yogurt up.. why the heck do you get joy out of short changing me on my glutton free amazingness? fill-er-up!

7. Crocs.

1 song i've written that will most likely never make the album....

I wrote it with my friend BC for an Adam Sandler movie and they never used it... yes.. its called "Horizontal Hula"... #myybad




Happy Finals week. You're welcome for helping you procrastinate whatever you were supposed to be doing.
Until Later..

xoxo
-Callymon

The Hunger Games..

We live in a world that scarcely resembles the one that existed not too long ago.
Technology has been in a constant incline along with our conveniences, girls wear pants now, music has become.. for lack of a better word.. retarded (dubstep? really?), and the universe of hopeless romantics and true love has been annihilated and replaced with a battle field.

This phrase has been used before - that love is a battle field. But, the lovely 80's songs that claimed they knew anything of heartbreak and tragedy, couldn't have foreseen, or imagined in their wildest nightmares the catastrophe that is this 21st century; Our "modernized fairytale".

As it's been ground into our minds time and time again that the ship is going down, and world ending as we know it, every single adult from the ages of 18-31 has been forced to enter into an appalling competition. You see, every eligible individual in the said age bracket is forced to fight to the death- or til they get married, which ever comes first- against every other warrior in search of the same thing... love.
All is fair in love and war right?... there are no rules.
The main objective and purpose is to find a compatible companion, suffer as little as possible, and get the heck out of the fight. Once you find the said individual that you choose to exit the games with- you are promised a life time of fairy dust, and rainbows, that we like to call marriage... (Although... every contestant, or tribute, to exit the games is sworn to secrecy and forced to say it's all peaches and creme anyway - so... you kinda just hope for the best.)

In order to extinguish the hope of the surviving tributes faced to fight this fight, many obstacles are placed in the "arena" of the single dating world. When face to face with these obstacles all can seem virtually hopeless, but if all the tributes can just keep their head above water.. they hopefully can prevail. Although the obstacles are generally created to challenge the specific tribute's weaknesses, a few remain universal. Facebook, for instance, with it's never ending newsfeed of people that you thought were more pathetic than you, that would CERTAINLY never get out of the games before you..... that are getting engaged right and left... before you. The people that aren't afraid of pulling out the big guns.. that no longer have to watch their backs and think of combat strategy. HUGE obstacle. HUGE annoyance. Huge mind trap manufactured to drain our common sense and decent thoughts about humanity in general... also put there to bring out insecurities you didn't know existed. Woo!
Regardless.. champs.. keep your heads up... and let the 2012th hunger games BEGIN!

Now... as i anxiously await the movie premiere of the ACTUAL hunger games... you bet your bottom dollar i'm going at midnight.. I'm going to let the characters who have gone before us... fought the good fight... and come out victorious.. be our mentors in our own hunger games. Hopefully with smart training, and learning from the mistakes and lessons of iconic tributes, we will be able to give ourselves the best possible chance of surviving.. and winning!!

Let's start with my favorite: Peeta.

Peeta's outlook on life, is that no matter what you're faced with... fear.. doubt.. success.. money.... that you should remain the same person. That you should always maintain your core values, personality, and admirable characteristics. It doesn't matter the situation... or relationship you're in....the things.. or people.. that are placed in your life. Be you. Forever.

So. the first thing we need to do, to train up to be like Peeta.. to gain this weapon and be able to use it to our advantage.. is figure out WHO exactly that is. Who are you?.. What do you stand for?..
Once you figure out who you are in the very depth of your being.. then make a vow to yourself to never compromise it. Don't let yourself settle for being less than you really are, just because someone demands less of you.. or attempts to drag you down.

I know too many people that when fighting in these games, abandon everything they've ever learned about friendship. Girls.. and guys... that go at each other's throats in an attempt to land the same person. Homies.. there's more than enough people to go around. You don't need to sacrifice every friendship that you have in your attempt to connive and sneak your way into the heart of the one you feel is within your grasp.. or next on your radar. You badmouthing someone else in an attempt to somehow get ahead in this game... doesn't make THEM look stupid... it makes YOU look stupid. And anyone worth being with would see this as a weakness.. not a strength.
We are the average of the 5 people we are around the most... so the people we associate ourselves with.. and relationships we choose to have.. will help dictate how our character is formed and maintained. Choose to be around people and in relationships that make you more of the BEST you... that wont tolerate you being anything less than exceptional. And strive to be the person that others would want to be around for the same reason.

The other anti-peetites.. are the sad sad cases of tributes that lose themselves completely in an attempt to please someone else.. Those unfortunate souls that enter the games as one person... and exit as someone completely different, abandoning anything that remotely resembles the old them.. leaving an empty shell of a person.. sure to collapse under any sort of pressure or conflict.

My friend Jessie, is one of these unfortunate souls.
Jessie was an exceptional dancer.. that was out-going, friendly, and liked to make everyone around her comfortable. 

Jessie and Paul dated for 5 months. At first it was new.. it was fabulous.. there were fireworks.. she was in love!

But as they spent more and more time together.. Jessie danced less and less.. always finding reasons to get out of lessons and performances. Paul never flat out said he didn't like her dancing... but he wanted her.. to want to be with him.. over any thing else.. and dance was a major distraction as far as he was concerned. Little by little he stifled her light, claiming her out-going.. easy and likable personality, was her flirting and seeking attention from those around her. He hated that she found ease in any situation.. claiming that she lacked humility. 

Everything about Jessie changed.. one second at a time.. she transformed from a happy dancing fool, to a pocket-mouse of a shadow.. always in the wake of Paul in an attempt to make him feel superior. 

She exited the games as a completely different person than the sunshine light that she came in as. 

One of my best friends, Mark, had just started dating this girl, Kaitlin, when all of his sparkles faded.. all of his charismatic fire went out. He slowly faded into her shadow, adopted her meanness, and within a few months.. also became completely unrecognizable. Yes. He got out of the games... as someone totally different than the person he came in as. He abandoned his friends, tact, friendly demeanor. and is forever lost in a sea with no lifesaver. A guy that would do anything for anyone even if he didn't even know them.. became someone that was self centered that thrived in the demise of the happiness around him.

As i continue to reveal my true inner nerd...
When it comes to maintaining your true identity... combine your Peeta mentality.. with that of the sword of Griffindor from Harry Potter.
While we all should remain ourselves... every single one of us could do with some refining.. so.. only take in that which makes you stronger and better as a person.. disregard the things that would destroy your light and goodness. Avoid the retarded people out there that suck. Cuz being with them.... will make you suck too.

The second mentor from the games that we're going to train with is Katniss..

Katniss is admirable for her strength and independence. Plus she's a total Bad A. However.. we're going to avoid repeating things that - although could definitely further us in a fight of hand to hand combat.. shooting people and stuff... - when it comes to this LOVE hunger games.. will only hurt us.

While i'm probably the biggest fan of tough independent women there is.. I'm gonna start by saying STOP.
When it comes to getting out of THIS hunger games.... loading yourself up with armor and building a fortress around yourself and your heart.. will only leave you.. alone. which completely goes against the point of this whole war. So hey.. dummies... I know we all want to suffer the least amount possible.. however.. never letting people in.. will get you absolutely nowhere.
Don't be afraid to feel.. to be vulnerable.. and open to the idea that someone can actually pick you up when you fall. You don't have to just lie there until you heal.

Everyone is afraid of losing the upper hand by actually CARING about the other person in the relationship. I know this is unconventional... and in the eyes of all the tributes fighting, probably a pretty scary survival technique... but if everyone could make a 180 with their thinking... and worry about being the person that cares MORE in their potential relationships.. we might actually have some functional relationships here!
Yes.. this exposes you to potential gunfire... however.. if you put yourself out there.. and get shot.. then at least you can heal and move on.. rather than live in fear of getting hurt! Honesty never hurt anyone in the long run. so.
At least be open to the idea of love. You'll never go anywhere if all you do is shut out potential ways to be happy.  You with your big bad weapons of mass destruction.. will only end up in a big bad world.. all tough.. and by yourself.


The final tribute that we're going to take notes from and train with.. is Gale.

Now without getting into a big Team Peeta or Team Gale war.. even though im team peeta cause he's perfect.. whatever.. we're going to learn from the BIG FAT MISTAKE of Gale.. and hopefully come out more victorious than he did.

Gale.. is basically the male version of Katniss..
Everyone feels all sad for gale because they feel like he loved Katniss first and blah blah blah...
Even if you haven't read the books... all you need to know is that yes, apparently Gale loved Katniss for like 5 years.. and he didn't do a dang thing about it. Not ONE. So.. it's nobody's fault but his own when she gets swept off her feet by Peeta.
The lesson we're going to learn here...? FIGHT for the ones you love! When you feel something... SAY SOMETHING!! The worst thing that can happen.. is you get shot......... you heal..and you move on.
Gale had Katniss all to himself for so long and all he did was be her friend.. the strong silent type that.. uh.. ends up by himself.
You have nothing to lose and absolutely everything to gain by going after something you want. So do it!

 I'm not trying to rag on you here guys... but this is your JOB. DO YOUR JOB!! Take love by the horns and make some magic happen!! make a move. Ask girls out. The amount of money spent and the extravagance level of the date has absolutely NOTHING to do with anything. You don't have to spend ANY money.. but it is your job to pull out your big guns.. and make some plans. Control that destiny.
I'll tell you right now that there isn't a girl out there that wouldn't love to be swept off her feet.. so get a broom.

Take the first steps. Don't be stuck at home... watching the one that got away be with someone else cuz you were too chicken to say something or do something. Go make some magic happen..

As the world is ending as we know it.. let's all keep in mind that we wont be stuck in this huge sucky battle forever... And once we get out of this war... there lies a whole new set of challenges and rewards. The only thing we have complete control of.. is ourselves. Let's make sure that we are in the best shape possible -fundamentally.. emotionally.. physically.. intellectually..  and characteristically..- with the greatest weapons we can find in order to fight the good fight and come out victorious. Let's become warriors of love.. determined to fill the world with more of it... not determined to beat the system and somehow end up room mates with the closest thing we could find to real love. Do everything you can to be a winner..  Go get fighting. Let the 2012th Love Hunger Games begin...


Until later..
xoxox
-Callymon

The Voice ..

How do you create a legacy?
How do you leave something behind for others to remember for centuries.. that will actually have an impact on generations to come?
How would you go about becoming the voice of a generation..? Or writing something that would change a generation.. or more practically speaking.. a single person?
Many writers have done it. They’ve managed to hone in on the emotions of young people.. or not so young people.. enhancing their senses by relating to them on new levels with topics that ignite something in their imagination. Some writers have told stories that have been told many times in history books, adding a new twist, or new perspective, unlocking doors into the minds of the past.
Writing.. and reading.. are both incredible tools that have aided humanity throughout history. Great tools, when used for great things.. in a great way.. usually produce.. well.. great stuff.

For many years i’ve wanted to be every kind of writer; a journalist, novelist, songwriter.
I’ve wanted to be the faceless name behind wonderful stories that people would paint their own pictures to, creating magical lands in far off places with dragons and princesses, and knights in shining armor that ride in at the last second to save the day. I’ve wanted to create an escape for people that are looking for things far beyond their reach, something tangible for the ones holding on to something not within their grasp.
The characters in my dreams often dance from my head onto pages and files in my computer, only to end up somewhere lost in a viral universe, saved under some forgettable name. Nothing extraordinary about their untold stories, nothing excruciating about their created pain, just made up people in a made up world, fighting made up daemons, always coming out alive and well - it all would take such life in my head! .. and then when it came time to put pen to paper (or hands to key board) the characters eyes lost their sparkle.. their love lost it’s fire.. and their stories lost my interest.
After killing myself day after day.. week after week.. in an attempt to create a world i longed to live in.. i realized that i only have one story to tell.
Which brought me here..
So here i am.. pen in hand.. fingers on keyboard.. bringing you reality.
No knights in shining armor. I can’t promise princesses in castles.. i can’t take you to far off lands, but i can take you to the only place in which my mind will allow me to share.. my head.
My name is Callymon, and this is, and has been, my story.

When something happens to someone.. i believe that there’s a reason for it. While trying to find answers to my own questions.. and decipher through my own confusion, i began answering other people’s questions. While attempting to fix my problems.. and my heart.. i started fixing others. And while attempting to tell my own story, i began to tell the stories of others.
I knew there were answers to questions that i would never get.. and problems of my own that would never get solved.. but somehow.. fixing others.. seemed to help.
My life hasn’t been peaches and creme.. as i'm sure you've been able to assume through endless songs and blog posts about brokenness and pain.. but before i went viral, everything out in the universe about my life was exactly what i decided i wanted people to know.
I tried to be very cookie-cutter.. the no surprises, blonde girl with the life that no one questioned.. and no one went digging in.. the surface me. Not necessarily anything that wasn't real, it was just full of pleasantries and 'fine how are you's. I gave the world the bran callymon. Nothing sugar coated, spiced up, or really anything that went beyond ordinary.

Message to the wise... once you start showing who you really are.. there’s really no going back.. cuz once people get a dose of reality.. they never want the fake one-flavor stuff again! You give them sugar, spice, and heart-ache.. and they eat it up! You give them bran again..? and they think they’re eating cardboard. (which i guess isn’t too far off)

As this blog has hit it's 1 year anniversary, I'd first like to say.. thank you for listening. Thank you for reading the stories of the heartbroken.. pissed off.. and wallowing. Every person who has told or sent me their story also thanks you. You as readers have given a voice to many that would otherwise have remained silent... giving the world the bran version of themselves.
By reading the stories of the silent, you've hopefully consciously, or subconsciously challenged the status quo of the world around you. You've hopefully seen the signs of pain or confusion in another's eyes and made a conscious effort to take it away.. or even just to not make it any worse.
The fact that you're reading these words right now really means a lot to me. Thank you.

As any good recognition speech.. let me share with you YOUR favorite parts about the last year in "The Blog You Wish Your Boyfriend Read"...

Favorite/most viewed post: It's About Time

Favorite messages i've received:

From: Karol
callymon I don't mean to creep you out but can I just say I absolutely LOVE your blog! Seriously it is inspiring, uplifting, and you are hilarious! Keep the posts coming girl and I'll keep enjoying them!

From: John
Callymon,
First I would like to complement you on your bomb blogs. Yes, I feel kinda girly reading them, and the fact that I enjoy them makes it even worse. SOOO well done. Secondly If you wanna do a blog post on me Im here, available, and fully clothed. I ll give you a good story may not be true but it would be a good one. No name change will be needed. Ha. Keep Lifting up the people. People need it.

From: Seth
Hey callymon,
So it was your "Masquerade" blog entry back in the middle of May that first caught my attention. I thought you were such a good writer and had such good perspective that I went on to read the next one on "the non-stagnant relationship movement". Good stuff! Keep it up

From: Hannah
call. i hope i dont sound like a complete creep but i am obsesseddddd with your blog. seriously read it at every free time that i have. you are a relationship guru. just want you to know that whether its making me cry laugh or get myself thinking it leaves an impression on me. you're great. i hope all is well. loveyy

From: Zac
while stalking I came across an absolute Gem! something about Tool-a-holics. LMAO. serious! Never new you were such an seasoned writer. Long story short, I was thoroughly impressed/ think maybe you ought to take up journalism or something where you can utilize those skills. Keep it up. I'm subscribed and looking forward to more insight from 'the blog you wish your boyfriend read'. You rock, lets kick it soon.

From: Annie
Callymon.. I know I don't personally know you, but Im one of Emily's best friends. I just read your blog and loved it. I don't really know your story, but have heard parts from My friend and it reminds me of what I have kind of been going through lately. I really enjoyed your blog and how uplifting it was  you seem like such a sweet beautiful girl. Just wanted to say thanks for sharing . Some things in your blog reminded me of my story.

From: Jessica
Hey girl! I miss you! I decided to read your blog the other day.. and can I just tell you that I love you? I don't know how you are not married to ten men right now. For real. I read one post and then I couldn't stop. It was 3 AM and I was like, "I gotta keep going, I've almost read them all.. this girl is good.." Oh heavens, I cried, I laughed and I felt like I could relate to so many things you said. You made sense out of my problems and gave me hope in the future. I wish we would've had a girl talk after one of those $5 movie nights! Haha, anyway, I think you're amazing, beautiful, HILARIOUS, smart, and witty. You're the whole package and I know whoever your husband is will be all of those same things and more. Keep writing!
Love,
Your newest biggest fan!!

My favorite/most surprising discovery: More guys read this than girls.

I've loved every message, comment, re-post, and suggestion. y'all have really been awesome!


Now, you didn't really think that's all the 1 year post was going to be right? Good.

In our society today... in order for someone to continue to do what they love.. to reach any sort of fame, fortune, recognition, or acknowledgment at all, people have to be aware of them.
The recipe for success is: talent + recognition/ awareness = success
Unfortunately... the model looks like.. talent + RECOGNITION/AWARENESS = Success
Unfortunately... talent is but a small part of this model. It doesn't really matter what you can do... as long as a whole bunch of people know you do it.
In the music industry, so many people remain in prominent..influential positions.. that.. lets be honest.. suck. Our world is filled with people that aren't that great.. getting recognized for things that aren't that great.. yet because of their recognition... they have great power.. and a very LOUD voice.
I mean.. honestly... as cool as 'Friday.. Friday... Let's kill ourselves on Friday' is...

... its a dumb song.
Guys... she has 25 million views!!! And don't get me wrong... that's fantastic for her! Props to rebecca black! That's an incredible accomplishment!
But then you look at someone like my friend Rudi...

And her formula remains.. Talent + Recognition/awareness = success. 






Rudi has 14,000 views on that.. which is still amazing!! However, it could be... 25 million!!
Unfortunately, In order to get anywhere in life.. you need the recognition in order to verify and legitimize your talent to the world. YOU as an individual have the power to do this.. to fill the radios.. internet.. news stations.. and minds of the world with exactly what interests you. You have the power to change who and what gets recognized for what. The future of fame, fortune, and awareness rests in the hands of every single individual. You give the microphone to exactly who you want to have a voice..

So.
As i sat with friends the other day brain storming of how to get my voice further heard.. and further recognized in this crazy world.. we decided that i need to start with YOU.

As i said earlier, the fact that anyone reads my random thoughts and stories at all is baffling to me.. but hey.. y'all do read it. and hopefully you keep coming back.

The two things in my life that i love more than anything in the world, are my music:

and writing: hence this blog.

I'll work on the talent part, if YOU guys can help me out with the recognition.
Now as you sit there and roll your eyes, thinking, oh great.. another thing on fb that annoying people post.. that nobody responds to... spamming the universe with their annoyingness.. knock it off.

I usually don't do this.. and wont in the future. I'll continue to fill the walls of this page with stories and thoughts and randomness.. but in spirit of this 1 year anniversary post.. i am asking you, if you enjoy reading this craziness, to share it with whoever you can. If you repost it on fb.. link it on your blog.. or just spread the word to your friends.. I would love you forever.

In every issue.. song.. article.. power.. and confrontation... remember that you have a voice! You absolutely have a say! And you truly can change the world one moment at a time.

This last year has been awesome! Thanks for giving me a way to purge my thoughts! Thanks for your stories.. thanks for being here. right now. you guys rock.
Happy Birthday "TBYWYBR" (the blog you wish your BF read)..
Here's to the next year! Cheers..

Until later..
xoxo
-Callymon