..A dream is a wish...

Yesterday i had an EPIC movie day. I saw Tangled... yes for the 8th time. don't judge me. annnd i saw inception for the first time... all i have to say about that one is WOOOAHHH!
As i sat there awake last night.. my mind was going nuts!

A dream is a wish your heart makes... Im gonna leave off the "when you're fast asleep" and focus on dreams in general.
A dream is a wish..
A dream is an Idea...
A dream is a quest...
A dream is a world we build ourselves that we hope and wish to make reality someday.. a place of safety.. security.. a place where we control results.. outcomes.. consequences.. A place where we have the final say.
In the world of Inception.. this dream world is a crazy place of secrets.. vaults containing the deepest darkest desires of our hearts.. a place where reality and fantasy overlap to form the ideal.. in most cases.. to form the impossible.. and in some cases.. to form nightmares beyond our wildest thoughts.
I'm gonna jump around for a minute.. just go with me.
In tangled.. Repunzle's dream is to venture on a Journey to see the lanterns that are released into the sky every year on her birthday... When she FINALLY reaches her destination.. and her life's dream is about to come true.. she starts to worry..
"What if it's not what i imagined... and what if it IS.. then what..?"
Flynn/Eugene.. her prince charming in the making replies.. "That's the great thing.. you get to find a new dream.."

I know i've said before that our spirits are hardwired for progression.. If we're not moving forward we're moving backwards...
now apply this to our new "dream world" that we're exploring...
It is.. and should be.. a place of constant change. Our wishes.. expectations.. ideas.. they're all hardwired within us to progress.
We form the different levels of our dreams. with the scenery.. people.. and objectives different on each level.. til we reach a state of Limbo.. where we can potentially live forever..
Forever making changes in a world we control.. in a life that we hold the keys to success in..
A new world where nothing else matters except being with the one you love and the creation of success in your life by whatever standard you set.

As we look to our ideal.. the dream in our heads of what and how our world and future should look.. We have to understand that everything in life is a process..
Every destination has a set of directions to it.. every finish line has a race proceeding it.

Repunzle had to go on this life changing journey to live her dream.. and while she was searching for something else.. she stumbled across her new dream.. Flynn Rider. Her Journey to find something materialistic became a journey to find herself in another.. and she found love where she least expected it.

The first level of repunzle's dream would be leaving her tower.. she never thought it was possible.. but she set her ideal reality outside of it.. and.. with a little help.. she conquered the level like 'Angry Birds' and moved on.. The next level would be seeing the lights.. and you see the journey take her places she's never been and make her do things she's never done... The next level would be Flynn. He became her new quest.. her new dream.. And then finally she reaches Limbo where she gets it all...
Her reality becomes far better than anything she had ever dreamed.. She gets the dude.. the castle.. the horse.. the Chameleon.. the crown.. parents that don't use her for her once magical glowing hair that's now a brown butch cut.. it's great.

I have this image of what my future looks like locked in my vault in my heart and mind.
In this world.. Im successful to my own standards.. I live happily ever after with my soul mate.. the roads are made of chocolate... and popcorn flows like Niagra falls.
I have my dream job.. dream guy.. dream house.. dream kids.. dream lifestyle..
This dreamworld however.. is about to get rocked.

Through recent experiences with my friend James.. I've learned that the future is a bad place to live. That this dream world mansion has to be built brick by brick in the present.
That these wishes.. ideas.. quests.. all have to be taken on one step at a time in the present.

Now.. i've always thought that those who say 'patience is a virtue'.. obviously weren't waiting for something totally friggin awesome.. But i've had to learn to have patience with myself.. my progression.. and my dreamworld future..

In our wonderful love lives.. that are complicated and suck all the time... there are different levels of dreams as well..
As we are all seeking the same destination of 'Prince Charming' in the end.. we all have to endure this retarded.. demented process.. of the 'levels of the prince charming dream'..

My homegirl Abby dates like NOBODY'S BUSINESS.. like seriously.. i've never seen ANYONE date like this girl. she dates with a PURPOSE.. she does WORK!
She has been in many relationships.. many serious relationships.. that definitely could've resulted in big diamonds and white dresses.
She's had her heart broken many times.. and she's broken her fair share of hearts..
With every new guy and new experience.. she has felt like she's had to start over.. completely from square one.. that she's had to bulldoze her mansion in the process and lay new foundation..

BUUTT... never fear abby.. Mcheart Doctor is here!
Like i said.. our souls are hardwired for progression..
With every new guy.. you learn new lessons.. you get new petpeves... you learn more about yourself.. you get better at kissing.. and you learn what you want in the future prince charming!
Every guy is a stepping stone leading up to the leap of faith.. the leap of love.. and finally falling knowing your prince charming will be there to catch you.

As i look back in my dating life at the lessons i've learned from the crazy dudes on the roster.. i realize what it's made me into.
things i never would've known if i didn't go through exactly what i have...
- I'm stubborn.. and i need someone that will FORCE me to let them into my life.
- I live life with spontaneity.. on the edge.. and i need someone that walks the balance beam with me..
- i like making out too much to date a bad kisser..
- i like PDA.. not the gross awkward kind.. but homie.. you hold my hand and kiss me in public or imma slap you.
- i need a dude thats taller than me
- long distance relationships suck.. i don't recommend them.. and i'm not about to do one again
- i like cheesey stuff.. and dudes that aren't into that.. get the boot.
- i like guys that will watch disney movies with me.
- Prince charming will also have a best friend that will date and marry my sister
- "that's hott" is NOT a term of endearment.
.. trust me there's TONZ!

I know we get to certain points in our lives.. and dating lives.. that we see our future in a certain way. Where we love someone with all of our hearts that we can't even iMAGINE our lives and futures without them in it. Unfortunately we only have a 50/50 chance in every relationship that this present person.. will make it into 'future dude status'.
All relationships have to end 1 of 2 ways.. you break up.. or you get married..

You just have to realize that with every heartbreak.. new beginnings are discovered..
you are made a better person with each jerk you go through..
every single person that walks in and out of your life brings a new lesson that you need to learn..
look for these lessons and apply them to your future dream world to make it a paradise you can only imagine..

you dream dreams wishing and hoping that someday they will come true..
wishes are nothing if they're not pursued..
dreams become things only of sleeping if we surrender our lives to people that don't deserve ultimate control..
Our future and our reality is something for US to create... in dating.. in school.. in LIFE..
as each new day comes.. take the challenge to live in the present FOR the future..
dream in the NOW..
get off your butt and go build your own mansion. you have all the tools..

Challenge...
make a list of each person you've dated and each lesson.. how ever dumb it may be.. that you learned from them that you were able to take into a future relationship.
Next... make a list of lessons you have taught others.. and lessons you hope others take from you some day..
The third list.. is a list of things you want the person you end up with to have..
Now take the third list and apply it to yourself.. BECOME the kind of person you want to end up with..
"If you don't like what you're attracting.. change what's attracting it.."

Until tomorrow!
xoxo
-McCraazy sauce