Sure, some winners lose occasionally - some losers get lucky and win a few. But in the end, the winner's losses are for their benefit - the loser's wins to their demise.
Winners surround themselves with people that are better than them. It could be that they know more about ONE thing, or that they're more skilled in ONE tiny area - if they're better than the winner, the winner wins by being around them. The tricky thing about being a true winner, is that winners often times feel like losers, and they're ok with it! They feel inferior, realize that they are the weak link in one aspect of a relationship or another, and they accept this fact - because a winner's inferiority wont last long. A winner that feels like a loser is simply a racehorse before they open the gates. They are constantly being lifted up by the winners around them in areas that they would otherwise fall short, being pushed towards finish lines they had no intention of crossing, improving their quality of character and becoming well rounded winners.
Losers on the other hand surround themselves with people that make them feel like winners. They are constantly the one lifting others up so that they can maintain a feeling of being above them in one aspect or another. They have the upper-hand in most of their relationships and they like it that way. Losers HATE feeling like losers so they rarely associate with true winners - they simply broaden their circle with more losers. A loser that feels like a winner is an idiot.. and usually the guy at parties doing dumb stuff.
Winners date people they feel are out of their league.
Losers date people they feel superior to.
Winners are comfortable being wrong, seeing it as a learning opportunity and a way to become right.
Losers will never admit to being wrong, further increasing the odds of them always being wrong.
Winners don't have to tell you they're winners.
Losers will tell you they're a winner to make sure you don't think they're a loser.
When a winner dates a loser, the winner has most likely fallen for the smoke screen the loser has put up to hide their loserness. They are attracted to the things the loser has perfected faking. They are attracted to the loser's feeling and attitude of superiority at first like a moth to a flame, because winners are ok feeling like losers and see it as an opportunity for growth. Hopefully the loser doesn't get prego before the winner figures out they suck or this could be a miserable future for a true winner.
On the loser's side - when they date a winner.. they like the feeling at first of feeling superior to a winner.. they see it as a win on their part and continue to perfect the facade that drugged the winner. However the loser, unless they are able to change, will be just as miserable in a long term relationship with a winner because sooner or later they'll have to admit they're a fraud when faced with actual winning circumstances or they'll have to walk away. It's a lose-lose.
When a loser dates a loser... measuring sticks are kept in back pockets to be brought out at any time. Competing egos and constant wrestling for the upper-hand is to be expected. Instead of lifting each other up, they will find ways to put each other down so that they can feel superior picking them back up. They break each other so that they can fix each other. Everybody loses.
When a winner dates a winner, it doesn't matter WHO is right but WHAT is right. They are constantly learning from each other and allowing each other to grow in and outside of their relationship. Winners are happy for each other's success. They want the winner they're dating to continue to win, and truly wish for them to be happy, healthy, successful, and productive. A winner knows that they are winning if their partner is winning. They also want to win not only for themselves, but to benefit their winning partner. They feel the need to win, not out of pressure, but out of a desire to be the best they can be for the person they feel is even better than they are. Winners together are known as "power couples". True winners allow their partner to lift them up, and are willing to lift up their partner when they fall. winners + winners = #winning. duh.
if you're a winner and find yourself dating a loser: run. all ye perish who enter here.
if you're a loser dating a winner: you probably want to tie them down before they realize you're a loser cuz whether you're dating a loser or a winner, life is going to suck for you. so. get prego. probably.
if you're a loser dating a loser: good luck. hopefully two negatives will eventually make a positive here when you realize that you both suck someday?
if you're a winner dating a winner: contact disney so they can make a movie about your life. Though life, dating, and relationships are hard - you have the formula for a happy ending. hold on to your winner.
How to know if you're dating a loser:
- they feel the need to make you feel like you're wrong.
- they are jealous and possessive
- they celebrate mediocrity
- when they lose, even silly things, they turn into the Hulk
- their friends suck (loser circle)
- they don't like you being successful or having fun without them
- when others compliment you, they hate it/ get insecure
- they drive big lifted trucks (not always the case).
Surround yourself with people that you think are more awesome than you are. Create your own winner's circle. Don't talk to losers. they suck.. and everybody wins!
xoxo
-CM
Someone once said, "Using no more than a pen and notepad, a good writer can inform the ignorant but a great writer can inspire a philosopher to think, a lover to love, or an army to rise up and fight." - Danny B ...and that someone was me - just now.
ReplyDeleteSo according to me, you must be a great writer then because you inspired a butt load of thoughts in this post!
1. "Measuring sticks are kept in back pockets... Instead of lifting each other up, they will find ways to put each other down..."
I thought this was super insightful and right on the money. I can think of 1 married couple in particular who turn everything into a competition, both always need to be more right than the other. It didn't take long for both of these people to start to despise one another, which only perpetuates their need to not allow the other to achieve anything greater than what they have, thus a never ending cycle of failed attempts to win. It's a self defeating way of life. It goes along with your other point of "A winner knows that they are winning if their partner is winning".
2. "It doesn't matter WHO is right but WHAT is right"
I love that you identified this! At least in my experience, those who can objectively hold truth higher than themselves are in the minority. So it's exciting to find someone else who gets it... it's like moving to another country where you don't speak the native language and then running into somebody from your home town.
3. "Winners together are known as 'power couples'"
Did you coin that title? Or is that really a thing? I've have this theory that there are 3 types of couples. The 3rd type have difficulty getting by and raising a family on their own. The 2nd type are a good enough team and are successfully able to life their lives and raise a decent family. The other type of couple work really well together, are successful in most aspects of life, and are in a position to assist the 3rd type of couples (temporally, spiritually, or emotionally). I think your idea of a "power couple" is similar to the type that put themselves into a position where they are able to help others more easily. Which makes it all the more important to not get "prego" from the "losers"!
4. "They drive big lifted trucks..."
hahahaha yes! adding to that list:
-they are disrespectful and rude to the Burger King chick because they asked for no tomato and mistakeningly got one on their burger
-he goes from nice guy to dick in about .02 seconds during a game of pickup basketball
-she has to point out the physical flaws of other girls every chance she gets
-nobody else's jokes are funny except for their own
-more than occasionally they feel the need to remind you of how good they are to you
-their favorite baseball team is either the Yankees or Red sox even though they've never been East of the Rocky Mountains
-most of your friends and family don't like them