The world can be a terrible place. love can be a terrible thing. The dark can be the most frightening thing in the world.. and the glass can always be half empty if we have the wrong glasses on.
Through the world of heartbreak that i've been thrown into.. its easy for me to bash relationships.. find things wrong with falling in love.. and set up warning signs and flashing lights with skulls on them telling you to STAY AWAY from anything that resembles a semi-functional relationship because there will ALWAYS be something wrong with it.
It's easy to walk away from relationships that end in unfortunate ways and pin point every way that they broke you.. how you rose from your fall from grace and told that tool box where to stick his big fat apology that he refused to give. it's easy to counsel others in similar unfortunate circumstances on what you did wrong and how they should do things differently.. on the things you would change if you could go back..
Years and years down the road.. we all tend to look back and write our own 'lessons learned' blogs about how everything makes sense now and how that 'dysfunctional relationship' benefited us. How we're better people because of the heartbreak and every lesson we were forced to learn at the expense of our happiness through another.
Every person that is sent into our lives is a gift. Some small packages make appearances.. some medium packages polka-dot our lives.. and some come in the huge.. bug-eyed christmas morning.. what you always wanted.. couldnt fit down the chimney.. kind of gifts that bless our lives in ways we don't intend.. and change us for the better.
We can each look back through our roster of people we've dated and pin point what category each person falls into.. some being lumps of coal.. some being big fat arrows pointing us in a better direction.. and some being the shiny diamond necklace that will forever remain in your heart and your family as a sacred keepsake.
I challenge you to stop and smell the roses right now.
As many relationships that i like to relate to that are breaking and busting at the seams.. as many man-haters i rally and helpless heartbroken people i attempt to lift up through my odd advice.. i challenge each one of you to stop and literally count your many blessings.
not in 5 years when your life's plan is revealed to you. not when you're completely healed from the heartbreak you're going through.. not when you finally find someone new.. someone better for you.. but right this second.
Each of these 'big present' relationships bring and take so much more from your life than the one person you happen to love. they bring families.. experiences.. and lessons that are invaluable.
We have the opportunity to become apart of a family that isn't our own.. befriend people that we never otherwise would've known.. and give a part of ourselves we never knew that we had.
Falling in love.. although it freakin sucks.. is the most amazing powerful thing in the world. it's the only thing that matters.
When we finally look back at our lives.. when we get to the point where it's not painful anymore.. we realize that we wouldn't change anything. that we wouldn't take our punch-card do-over moments.
If you feel anything like me.. love is scary. especially if you've had your heart broken.. but if it never rained.. there wouldn't be green grass.. greener grass.. on the other side of your heartbreak fence.
My girlfriend Camilla just got out of the relationship of her life.
Although she's sadder than she can even admit.. she gained so much from the relationship that she would never wish that it never happened.
Her ex.. John's family became her own. His friends became hers.. and she's forever grateful for the support and impact that the ripples in the water provided her from one person touching her life.
Because of John she knows how to love. Because of John she knows what she wants in life.. and because of John's family she's the person she is today.
As she stopped and had a vent sesh this weekend..complete with plots of revenge.. serious consideration of pullin a britney and shavin her head.. and break downs.. she was able to lift herself up and go on. Still heartbroken.. but with the realization that this relationship was one of her 'Big gifts' in life. That john was sent to her for more than to break her heart. That he was part of her plan to shape and mold her into the real and strong Camilla.
God can't send guardian angels to be with us every second of every day.. in every decision and mistake that we make.. so he sends us our 'John's .. he sends the people that are right for us for a particular part of our lives.. that help us in ways that no other person could've. He sends us amazing best friends and gives us the opportunity to open our hearts up to them. He sends us amazing second moms.. extra sisters.. and friends that guide us on our path in unique ways that only they can.
Each ripple from each relationship we should take and keep.. not avoid. not grieve. not shut out because of moments of pain and sadness... but we should embrace them.. possibly blog about them.. and make sure the lessons and blessings weren't in vain.
Don't let your heart break in vain. Don't be so afraid to feel that you shut out all the good that can come from falling in love at all.. even if it was with the wrong person.
let your guard down. Fall in love with as many things as you can. love is powerful.. and it's the only thing that matters.. the people that fall in love the most have the most beautiful scrapbooks at the end of life. they have the best memories and the least regrets.
Give in to it. You wont regret it.
xoxo
-Callymon
Your attitude... I like it.
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