Santa Clause. The Easter Bunny. The tooth fairy. The monster in your closet that would eat you if you didn't clean your room. (no..? just me?)
The things that we grew up on. Things that made our lives full of magic and excitement. The best kept secrets in the world! The things that kept us scared of being on the naughty list.. kept our rooms clean.. our trips to the dentist exciting.. and our easter dresses covered in multicolored food coloring. Things that i wish i still believed in. And even more than that.. things i wish were actually true!
I still remember the day that my friend broke the tragic Santa news to me. I cried. I even pretended like i believed in him for 2 more years before letting my parents figure out that i knew their secret. I was devastated that the strange telepathic fat man in red with rosey cheeks that stalked me in my sleep, always knew what i wanted, and always knew when i was awake wouldn't be breaking into my house that year through my chimney. I was traumatized when i realized that.. BUNNIES DON'T LAY EGGS!! and really.. what tiny person would give me a quarter for my gross teeth when mom was home.. and 10 bucks for the same tooth on the other side when dad was home?
The monster in my closet that would eat me if my room wasn't clean.. obviously never scared me THAT much.. ok it did... but not enough to make me clean my room.. i figured out at a very early age that.. hey.. im still here.. my room's still messy.. i may be grounded.. but things could be worse.. i could be in the belly of the mess monster! The only thing this fantasy got me.. was a fear of the dark that never went away.
The older we get, the more ridiculous and childish our once childhood fantasies seem. The more 'mature' we get.. The more we cling to them, waiting for the day we can lie to our own children about the red-suited burglar and freak hybrid egg-laying bunny. The magic we once lived for.. and thrived on.. becomes the fun - yet ridiculous - memory of the younger us.
Thank goodness for Harry Potter or my childhood would've become waaaay too muggle-ish at much too early an age.. For when we got a little older.. a new kind of magic was introduced to us.
A magical land of spells and witchcraft.. trolls.. appearing feasts.. defeating evil.. and having your best friends stick by you til the end.
I would love to tell you of a time that all these wild and ridiculous fantasies left my subconscious.. but lets be honest.. im still waiting for my Hogwarts letter.
We grow up on these nursery rhymes and fairy tales of bigger and better things.. of worry free holidays and magic always being there to clean up after our mistakes..
As we get older.. we don't let go of these magical fantasies.. cliches.. and happily ever afters.. No. Like our shift from Santa to Dumpledore... we just get new hopes.. new dreams.. and new magical worlds to replace the old ones.
True Love is our grown up version of Santa Clause.
Now hold it right there.. nooope i'm actually NOT turning this into a cynical 'man-hating' 'love sucks' blog. No bitterness here. So all you mushy love people can read on without thinking that i'm gonna jinx you.. and all you bitter single people can change your cd to something Ernie Halter and take a chill pill. i'm not here to fuel your love-hate fire.
But.
True Love.. or what we have grown up to recognize true love as... is our grown up version of Santa Clause. We grow up on this fantasy of boy meets girl.. fireworks explode.. they get married.. and live a happily ever after every day from there on.. (cue birds singing and fawns cleaning houses)
If you think love is easy... you are setting yourself up for failure.
Should love be HARD necessarily..? absolutely not. But it should be the hardest and the easiest decision you ever have to make... and the hardest and easiest problem you will ever have... confusing? and a litttttle contradicting? duh. its love.
People think that love comes without trying.. and if you have to 'try' that its not real love. This is false. Sorry dreamer.. bunnies don't LAY EGGS! People have to work at love everyday! Its what you're willing to go through to MAKE it perfect that makes it true love!
If you're getting into a relationship.. don't write it off so quickly if its not all peaches and creme.. weigh the good and the bad.. THEN decide if its worth it..
If you're getting married.. cuz lets be honest.. its kinda the thing to do right now.. don't go into it thinking that if you have a small argument.. or even a LARGE argument.. that 'you made the wrong decision'. Sometimes things get heated! Take a chill pill.. walk it off.. and come back to the issue with a logical.. more level headed approach.
If you've been married a while and you are just nodding your head to this. then woot woot. have a cookie. you've figured it out.
a couple more Santas?
'Love is Blind'
as much as i wish this absolutely WASN'T the case.. its true! When you're in a situation.. you rarely see the actuality of what is happening.. it can be a good thing or a bad thing.. depending on the relationship.
If you're in a bad relationship.. and everyone around you sees it.. but you don't. it's because you haven't filled your 'love prescription glasses' in a while. The best way to see if you're Stevie Wonder-ing it or if you're vision is just a little blurry but you wont crash your car..... when people talk to you about your relationship.. especially the ones that care about you.. don't lie. Don't make excuses.. tell them exactly how it is... if it sounds like a bad relationship when you say it out LOUD.. but then you back it up with.. yaa but you're not IN IT.. so you don't GET IT.. honey. you blind.
It's no one's decision but your own whether or not you want to put up with this relationship or not. And if you make the decision to.. then keep your relationship problems to yourself. The only thing venting to someone else about it will do.. is make them hate your girlfriend or boyfriend even more.. and tell you what an idiot you are.
'Love conquers all'
True.
It doesn't matter what your fight is about.. jealousy... money.. just plain stupidness.. if you love each other.. that's all that matters. It's like the 'good vs. evil' battle. Good will ALWAYS come out on top in the end.
If you are letting something come between love. you're an idiot. cause really... love conquers all. And as soon as you figure that out.. you're gonna feel..and look.. like a total moron. Save yourself that walk of shame.. Let the little things go.
'If you love something let it go.. if it comes back its yours.. if not.. it was never yours to begin with'.. (or something along those lines)
trust me this is a whole blog in itself ( probably the next one actually)
But, i used to think.. this phrase is sooo retarded! if you LOVE something.. why the heck would you want to 'let it go?!' wouldn't you want to fight for it? hang on to it? NEVER let it go?! why would you have to go through some weird process of yo-yo love dieting?
and then... it happened to me.
like i said.. get stolked for the next blog.. buut to finish this one out..
for real.. if you love something.. and you let it go.. and it comes back.. it's yours.
Sometimes you have to have the courage to walk away from something with the faith and hope that everything will work itself out. You have to be willing to lose someone if you love them because you may not be the best thing for them. This santa SUCKS. but its true!
.. If it was never meant to be and you walk away.. then trust me something even better is on the way!
and if it WAS.. then hey.. start planning the soundtrack for when you two run into each other's arms and have the 'epiphany of each other' moment when you realize you could never live without each other.
Either way.. win win!
You can believe in 'true love' if you bring truth to your love.
Breathe.
Forgive.
and dont spend forever festering over things that are out of your control.. its time wasted.
Until Later! xoxo
-Callymon
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