. Happily Never After .

There once was a heart that decided
to never let love get it down
to never give up or fall in to
something that would make it frown

This heart started out like a tough guy
shutting all out that wanted its key
determined to never find out just
how lonely a love lost could be

It twisted and turned from commitment
it ran from the faintest of sparks
it stifled the fires and ended
all love before it could start

and then came the hearts perfect soul mate
that broke down its walls in a flash
it fought it at first then gave into
something they thought had to last

so deeper and deeper the heart fell
not looking back hoping for more
no one could've warned this heart enough
about what fall it had in store

one day the heart woke up in panic
with nothing but memories to spare
the soul mate changed its mind now and broke
the promise they'd always be there

The heart was left now in pieces
tasting what life could be with a friend
that loves you with everything they have
and promises never to end

the hearts sworn off feelings engulfed it
the ones it swore it would avoid
it never wanted that feeling
to come again loving a boy

it tried and it tried to move on past
the soul mate that ran from their life
but the more the heart tried to be tough now
the more that no love could suffice

the broken heart picked up the pieces
the soul mate came back in their eyes
determined to crack what they'd fixed now
to tell them more promising lies

the heart had enough off the mind games
they sent the soul mate out the door
being stronger than they'd ever been now
finally wanting what love had in store

the hearts eyes were opened to new things
and walls weren't rebuilt in that fear
of losing the ones that would pass through
the hearts eyes til real love appeared

the broken heart club has its members
increasing by hundreds each day
all convinced that their soul mate
is the one they just watched walk away

Happily never after
Becomes happily never again
Not a matter of if love will find you
It's only a matter of when

So never be sad over broken
a remodel or two's for the best
dont shut down because of a crack-head
and not let your heart love the rest

...no more rhyming i mean it!!
.. anybody wanna peanut..?
i rhyme. for a living. i apologize. annnnywho.

There's a difference between a great love and the right love.
Since school has undoubtably taken over my life.. i've fallen behind on my Gossip Girl. Something no girl should EVER do! The final episode did the unthinkable. i cried. literally. tears came out of my eyes.. they're still flowing!
If you don't watch the show.. first off shame on you.. let me fill you in.
Blair Waldorf and Chuck Bass have been meant to be together since the show STARTED. 4 seasons... many love triangles and head- spinning schemes later.. you're STILL team chuck and blair.. thats just the way it goes.
They know each other's sparkly sides.. dark sides.. dull sides.. and basically have been through every single thing 2 people could ever go through.. hand in hand. You know how i've explained the 'all powerful couple' of Brad and Angelina? .. Blair and Chuck were BETTER! They took mind games to an art form and still could see each other through all of them.
Well. Final Episode.. Blair gets engaged. to.. NOT CHUCK. yes.. homeboy is the prince of Monaco or something but still... NOT CHUCK BASS! WTChuck?!
Several times through out the episode you think.. yes i love that blair is happy with Louis.. (her prince).. but there's no way she wont end up with chuck.

At the end of the longest 42 minutes of my LIFE.. Blair and Chuck say goodbye forever. They recognize that together they have been incredible.. outrageously adventurous.. bad for each other.. the only thing for each other.. and even 'right' at one point in their romance. But just because they had a 'great' love.. doesn't mean they had the 'right' love.
Holy hit home gossip girl.
did i mention i cried? yes. i cried.
Chuck realizes that for blair to be the best blair that she can be.. she has to be with someone else. They recognize that they will always love each other.. and then BAM. its over.

In our lives we'll love many people. We'll be able to experience a lot of realllly GREAT love. Each one bringing us something new.. each one igniting something new in us we didn't know was there..

My friend Christine just got out of a relationship. go figure.. it's like the hectic 'find your soul mate' race is making people drop faster than the economy. She unfortunately fell into the heartbreak group of our 'non stagnant relationship' movement..
Her and Charlie were every bit as picturesque as Blair and Chuck. They drove each other crazy.. understood each others weaknesses.. embraced the bad parts of one another.. and always rooted for the others overall happiness. They were perfect. But. low and behold.. they weren't right.

In the movie 'Hancock'.. you have Hancock and his woman.
They were literally made to be together.
BUT.. the closer they get.. the less powerful they get.. and the more mortal they become.. obviously giving them the ability to die.
When they're together.. people try harder and harder to destroy them.. cuz people don't like to see other people happy.. (and they're super hero's and every hero comes with a villain that wants to blow him up). This whole.. become mortal thing definitely becomes a problem.

Hancock's lady recognizes that she has to be happy with someone else if she wants to live. period. so.. she falls in love with the costume maker dude with the kid.

Hancock and his woman were LITERALLY made for each other! Just like Blaire and Chuck.. JUST like Christine and Charlie.. Just like soo many other couples out there that don't work out. Why doesn't it work?

You can make a lot of people happy... so my newest dillema in life is..
Who decides if its happily ever after... or happily never after..?
What makes that distinction? If you can make virtually anyone happy.. and anyone can make YOU happy.. then why the heck isn't everyone in the world in happy.. healthy.. successful relationships?! are we really just screwing with forever..? Do we not understand the concept of happiness..? do we not want it? are we just too lazy to find it? to get it? to hold on to it?

My best friend Madi had a fairytale romance once upon a time.
Her and her boyfriend Justin had this 'made for each other' stamp over their heads.. marriage was inevitable. everyone knew it. we were just waiting for it.
Well... one day, they decided that they weren't happy. and that things just weren't 'right'.
They refused to call it a timing issue because they didn't want to hold on to something that they may not have again.. but they didn't like saying it was completely over.. because how were they supposed to completely say goodbye when nothing really happened? Nothing caused this catastrophic break up.. just doubt. just a 'feeling' that they needed to break up.

So they called it quits. and literally stopped talking in fear of getting back together.
a couple months later.. this exact question popped into Madi's head... who decided it wasn't right with her and Justin? Who made the distinction between 'not right' and 'not right now'?

Since they had only called it off on account of rain.. the skies could turn blue again right?
3 weeks ago.. Madi came to me bawling to relay the phone conversation between them...

The basic.. hey.. how ya been's.. small talk... and catching up with each other's families and dying pets...
and then she asked him to 'catch up'... the classic 'we need to go to lunch and catch up soon! its been forever!'
His reply?
"Mads.. it really is good talking to you.. but we both know if we go to lunch we're only gonna wanna see more of each other.. and talk more.. and that would just be bad. We have too much history.. we'd be too tempted to get back together.. i really think you're a great girl.. but you're not my wife madi.. we already decided that. there's no point."

Hence.. the crying uncontrollably.
What she had taken as.. screw 'fate' i'm taking this 'everything happens for a reason' crap into my OWN hands... he had taken as.. 'its a sign! it didn't work out ONCE.. why should we ever talk again?!'

We all get this idea in our minds of the rest of our lives.. this picture perfect world we each want to live in.. and we ignore everything that we feel doesn't fit into this perfect mold.

Should we have standards and expectations for our future? abso-friggin-lutely. we should all want to and strive to live up to our highest expectations.
but when it comes to love... why is it that so many guys these days are claiming ..'she's great!.. but she's not my wife..' HOW THE FREAK DO YOU KNOW THAT HOMIE?!
No girl is going to treat you like you're her husband... until you're her husband.
If you are perfect for one another... then where exactly is the problem?


I'm talking to waaaayy too many girls in dysfunctional relationships with guys that dont appreciate them.. take them for granted.. and then claim randomly one day that 'its not right'.. and 'they're not happy'.. THEN.. instead of breaking things off COMPLETELY with the girl.. leaving her in peace.. ALONE with her chocolate and man-hating-taylor-swift-songs.. he continues to make sure he shows up in her life repeatedly cuz he knows this way she'll NEVER.GET.OVER.HIM.
He sees her according to his own convenience and then leaves her again and again.. making her resort to her break-up-chocolate-cake that we all know is easily 65000 calories.. over and OVER again.
Studying the gender rolls in our society is not only baffling... its suuuuper annoying.
girls tend to ALWAYS be waaaay too patient. and guys tend to take waaaayyy too much time to realize that happiness.. once found.. shouldn't be questioned.

all these guys are getting out of relationships to live the single life.. they're desperate to go on dates with new hot chicks.. when they just trampled over REAL love with someone that cared about them more than any bimbo they're dating now ever will.


I believe in fate. you know me.. i'm a happily ever after kind of girl.
but i also believe that people are SCREWING WITH IT.
all i ask is that you actually THINK about your love life right now..
is it 'not right'? 'not right now'? or are you just wasting your time and her patience and tears because your retarded?
if its not right.. let the poor girl/boy GO!!
if its not right now.. you MAY want to consider how friggin CRAPPY your treating your future husband/wife..
and if you're wasting time.. i'm gonna beat chu. cuz thats dumb.

i know i've said this before.. but you have to realize that your future.. is in YOUR hands! YOU personally are making the decisions that are shaping your forever. YOU were given the moral agency and right to be happy.. and its your own fault if your not.

in the wedding date.. Nick (the hottie patottie) says that every one has the exact love life that they want.
kat then replies 'you think i WANT to be single and miserable?!'.. to her surprise.. Nick answers 'Yes. when you're ready to be un-single and un-miserable... you will be'.

If you've recently gone through a break up.. my heart.. along with the rest of the broken heart club is with you.. i'm sorry.. the right person will come into your life.. dont shut down because some jerk made you his doormat.. go find a prince.. and make the no-good-broke your heart-..dude.. wish he was dead.

Don't let ANYTHING keep you from love... not pride.. not fear.. not a douchey ex that refuses to let you be happy and move on..

Realize whats going on in your life.. and hold yourself accountable for your own unhappiness. If you dont like something about your facebook relationship status... then CHANGE IT!
No story will end with happily never after unless YOU let it...
if its not happy.. then its not the end.


Until Later xoxox
-callymon