smooching and the cities

If you are actually following this.. you'll recognize the latest additions to this blog (which ya. i'm completely aware are the only additions since this started like 2 days ago..) have shout outs to the tv series.. Sex and the City. (all you judging eyes can just stop it alright.. on tv it's edited.) If you live under a rock and don't know what the premiss of the show is.. it's about Carrie Bradshaw (who is currently my tv idol) and her 3 friends. Carrie writes a column/ book about relationships and she explores different sides of them.. basically. it's fantastic.

Carrie has recently inspired me. For a minute i was thinking crap.. if i blog and refer to relationships all the time people are gonna think im on crack.. or going through a relationship on crack.. but then i realized. Everyone in the world is either in a relationship.. getting out of a relationship.. stuck in one.. searching for one.. avoiding one.. denying one... salvaging one.. and obviously always thinking about one form of relationship or other.. so i figured i'm safe. And duh..how can you NOT talk about relationships when you start singing about Silly Boys when you're 10..? plus.. i'll add some seasoning to this dish fest with what is good about sundays and how music makes everything make sense too.. or something.

so.. being on season 1 for all of you who are addicts (of SATC) and would like to follow my train of thought.. i've learned quite a bit. A couple things fascinated me.. that of course i'll adapt to be life according to MC instead of CB..


Ok so. some people would agree that there are gender rolls in a relationship..
the guy treats it like its disposable while the girl has the 3 date rule before she decides whether to make a shrine of him in her closet or never call him again/ hook him up with a desperate room mate.
personally... i thought all these games ended the day we graduated high school..
BUT whether the roll is reversed or whatever.. no matter what one person is always more invested and the other only holding on long enough for the next best thing to come along.
except all you disgustingly happy married people. you can scoff your little over-the-single-blues- scoff and laugh to yourself that you've beat the system. good for you. have a cookie.

so life according to carrie bradshaw.. her philosophy is that if the GIRL treated the relationship like it was disposable the GUY would be forced to take the other position leaving the girl with the upper hand..
Uncle Wayne in "Ghost of Girlfriend's Past" once said.. "the power in the relationship always lies with whoever cares less"..
and he's right!

but common... do you see happiness in this? if you do.. add PROVO ALLSTAR to your 5 year plan..
Can't people find mutual happiness and recognize it? obviously not. (again.. you married people.. shuut up. grab a diet coke and have a good laugh)
The episode ends with Carrie running into a guy that she was being "the guy" in the relationship with.. or the one she was supposed to be able to walk away from unattached emotionally.. and all he tells her is that.. he's THRILLED that she finally recognized the kind of relationship he had always wanted and was ready for! Basically booty-call central.
so now. we're either... a hopeless romantic waiting for her long lost sailor at sea.. someone content on feeling nothing/ basically a robot.. or a booty call?
WHAT IS LOVE COMING TO?!
Love is something that should be shouted from the roof tops!! (thank you rascal flatts) It's like they say on "My best friends Wedding" if you feel it SAY IT! it will solve EVERYTHING!

my advice? irrelevant or not...
dating is great! dating is fun! dating friggin sucks. if you fall in love. hang on to it.
like carrie with Big. (big is the guy she SHOULD spend the rest of her life with.. forever and ever. i'm team Big.)
So many people look at love as it being all about the game... well honey if you want games i can friggin give you the NBA play offs.. but shouldn't it be about more than that? yes. rhetorical question. knock it off you cynics.

and ok ok no i'm AM pro dating.. duh.. i just think most people approach it wrong.

ok. so now that the episode of slaying and the city is over..
Lets get into some reallllll sunday talk.

(i have a feeling this is gonna be a long entry..)
I heard a talk in church today that talked about how our perspective of experiences determines how each of them shape our character.. It referred to a boiling pot of water.
if you put an egg in it.. it hardens
buuut if you put a carrot in it.. it softens

Every person can look at their lives as a boiling pot of water (how exciting right)..
thinking about experiences i've had lately.. this story made me step back and re-evaluate my food selection.
i realized that i kept putting eggs in. hardening right up. Even experiences that weren't bad! Pitty parties.. how ever fun they are.. have a short guest list. i PROMISE nobody feels as sorry for you as you do for yourself. even dumb dumb stuff.

so.. you can join me as i pull out my baby carrots and throw them  enthusiastically into my boiling pot of water. Take something that happens to you that may be sort of unfortunate and laugh at it.. use it as motivation to become more of an excellent you!
smile! laugh! soften those carrots! shape your character into something that you WANT to be..

ok so i promised i'd season it with something right..? woo. carrots.. seasoning.. love.. looks like im making sunday night soup!
well. some of the best things about sunday..? sweats and movies. done and done. and game night.. holler.

Sundays are my favorite :)
and i believe they should be spent with the ones you love :)
so.. grab your family.. roomies.. best friends.. boy friend.. crush of the moment.. grand ma.. sisters.. or favorite fuzzy socks and blanket and make it the best sunday Funday you can!


xoxox
-Callymon