I hate drama.
I hate rumors.
I hate that most people love being experts about other people so much that they'll even go to lengths of inventing things to know about them.
Rumors are hurtful. Rumors can be nasty. They can ruin lives...
but if you think about it.. how many times are the rumors actually true stories that the person wished to keep a secret..? ya. sure.. an exaggerated truth on many accounts.. but truth at the core.
Secret is a word that facebook has changed indefinitely. I'm trying to decide if people realize what they post and post it anyway.. aware of the "social" part of the social networking.. or if they're completely lost in ignorance when they say.. "OMG BFF jill... guess what frickin happened today.. shut up you'll never guess.. but you have to promise not to tell.. well duuuuh girlfriiienn.. i know you would neva.. ok soo..." yup. the 3,000 friends you have just promised not to tell either.
up until recently i've thought of rumors and gossip as terrible terrible things. I mean you are always taught not to participate which i dont feel that i do very often.. buuut all of the sudden a whole new side of these 'taboo' things has presented itself to me...
think about it.
every school... every area.. every neighborhood.. has a D-squad.. (drama squad) whether its the high school cheerleaders.. gossip mama drama squad.. college rivaling sororities.. football teams.. the guys that like to know everything about everyone.. these d-squads are everywhere!
Before you start making a list of your neighborhood D-squad and cursing them.. hear me out. think about it this way....
what would we be without the rumors.. without the known secrets of others..
who would catch the cheaters? who would call out the liars? Who would know the dress that Sharron was gonna wear to the formal to make sure no one else bought the same one?!
We are forced to adapt to societal constraints ( for the 4th graders reading this... we all have to fit in with the stuff we live with..) As much as you don't care what others think.. every person has an opinion on everything you do and whether you peg their opinion as valid or not.. it WILL affect you in some way..
think about this boy... his name is Brad (so clearly he's a tool).
If brad hangs out with Emily and Britney and they both think that he's in love with them... if they were wrapped up in their 'relationship' with him.. on whatever level its at.. and they didn't know about the other.. they would be digging their own graves! They would be getting into a situation that they hadn't anticipated..
so brad kisses emily and tells her he's faawwwllingg for her.. he could go home that night and text brit that he really feeeeels a connection with her too and not think twice about it.
Most likely... the situation would go like this..
brad. being a guy. and a tool. wouldn't think twice about what he was doing or that it could ever be wrong. he doesn't mean to deceive them. he's not committed to either of them. and his ignorance is about to be their broken hearts.
but because of D-squad CIA action... emily talks to her girlfriends.. and brit texts her angry ex about brad to make him jealous...
D-squad steps in filling in the gap..
the girls are made aware of the situation at hand.. and whether the story comes out... "BRAD TOTALLY GOT THIS ONE CHICK PREGO AT BAND CAMP NAMED EMILY AND THIS GIRL BRIT.. WHO'S A HOOKER THAT WAS USING HIM FOR HIS BREAKFAST CEREAL.. IS TOTALLY COMPLETELY HOOKING UP WITH HIM TOO.. OMG. HE'S PLAYING THEM. WOW BRAD. YOU TOOL" but the point of the story or the little seedling of truth will probably be brought to the surface and brad with either get a slapping across his face or the girls will know that they need to remove themselves to a certain point cuz brad apparently is doing the enemy.. or the cereal hooker from across town.
could we live without the D-squads? life would probably be easier most of the time! But even when people don't mean to deceive.. it happens occasionally.. and when the D-squad takes over.. the secrets are brought to the surface.
after all that.. i'm still gonna tell you not to gossip cuz its stupid..and don't get involved in drama.. cuz it's pointless.. but keep that drama queen bee's number on speed dial just incase you decide you need the CIA's help. it will be useful at some point in your life. from there you can separate the lies from the truth.
ok now. random thoughts moment..
Soundtrack to my life song of the moment.. "Why Wait" Rascal Flatts
Music is so powerful. The 'chicken soup for the soul' books had a slogan (or maybe its still their slogan? who knows) : when you don't know what to say... give it away. People could, not knowing what to say, suddenly connect with someone on a new level by giving them a book and saying.. "read this story.." explaining things in a way their own words never could.
i feel like music is like this.
i mean ya.. i'm a musician so i think music is the most sacred, incredible, freakin coolest thing ever.. but how often do you sit there in a moment listening to the radio thinking... HOLY CRAP!!! HOW DOES RASCAL FLATTS KNOW THIS ABOUT ME.. cuz CLEARLY this song could be about nothing else except my exact situation..we must have serious mutual friends on FB!! dang.
or when trying to self-define the relationships in your life.. you hear a song (or read twilight) and go.. WOAH.. HEY WOAH.. WOAH HEY... thats exactly how i feel!! that's exactly the way it is with George (cloony of course)
and how about the certain songs you can't even listen to without thinking of one specific person! or one specific night!
there was a time in my life where i couldn't hear this one song without breaking down with full on tears (i don't like to cry.. this is a big deal people). cry..? because i hear a SONG?! don't lie.. you've totally done it.
It makes everything in our lives make sense.
so.. here's my current play list:
Greatest love songs ever..(right now..)
- God must've spent a little more time on you -Nsync
- Look at me - Carrie baby
- Any man of Mine - Shania Twain
- Don't be stupid - Shinia Twain
- Bubbly - Colbie Callet.. (if you're wondering what the song was that i shed my pride through my tear ducts to... mm hmm.. the dumb one that talks about krinkling noses and toes-es. judge me)
- Come away with me - Norah Jones.. girls. admit it. you share my fantasy of slow dancing to this song in the middle of the street right after it rains with the boy of your dreams.. no? just me?
- Down - yes the baby are you down down down down down song.. look up the acoustic version though.. it's amazing!
- Only you can love me this way - Keith my husband Urban
- One less lonely girl -JB (gotta give my boyfriend a shout out.. love you babe)
- Why wait - Rascal Flatts
ok. sorry i think this is a suuuper long one. but hey. this thing is dangerous.
Tonight my challenge to the 2 people that read this? (wahoo) I heard about a girl in church on sunday that got a short note from a friend telling her how much she appreciated her...
warmed my soul right up. do it. it'll take 5 seconds.. and it'll make someone's life. first thing in the AM.. you're day WILL be better.. bloggers honor.
Peace. Love. Gossip Girl.
xoxo
-Callymon
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